once in a while I will reply to these because I thoroughly enjoy reading them for one. Number two is that I like to briefly respond to an issue I will be going through as I trek through my new path. Carlos, I have a problem. When I am good, I'm really good with talking to girls. But I get in these phases where my energy is on the low side and don't feel like approaching a girl when the opportunity arises. I was with two of my friends at StarBucks tonight and a gorgeous girl is standing at my right in line.
I could sense her IOI of me, but I just didn’t feel that energy to look to my right and say, "have you ever tried" blah blah! I SHOULD HAVE. How do I get over this low energy, or get myself charged up to do it when the opportunity presents its self? I've missed lots of chances because of it.
Thanks Carlos, Dave
This touches on a VERY important topic.
When we talk about "energy," what we're really saying is MOTIVATION.
Without motivation, you are stuck. You have to be able to get yourself to act.
Now the flipside of this situation is that you might have some motivation, but it's the negative kind. It's call the FEAR OF FAILURE.
Every guy has it to a degree. But it's a question of WHICH motivation will win: The motivation to just SAY SOMETHING, or the negative motivation to listen to the voice in your head that says you can't do it.
You'll either listen to Obi-wan, or Darth.
This is not something I can cure in a simple blog post. What you must do is dive into your own universal motivators and discover what it is that gets you to do what you know you must do.
This was a pressing issue for me when I held my Alpha Immersion workshop in March of this year. I knew that guys knew WHAT to do, and they'd get at least a little success if they would just do SOMETHING.
But how do you get them to DO it?
One way is to sit down and really break down the thinking that you go through at one of those moments. Be REAL with yourself. Don't Lie to yourself about the things you're experiencing.
Every guy runs into these moments of low energy and motivation, or we succumb to our negative inner voice. The point is how we manage those moments.
Remember, the most important skill I teach you is how to manage and control your thinking. That is where all success (and failure) originates.
I created a bunch of exercises designed to help them find this for themselves. I put many of them into the new DVD program that you'll be seeing in a few days here. I'll also be working these exercises in the Advanced Audio Coaching.