ALPHA MALE QUESTION:
I have a question about what seems to be the dreaded "Let's keep in touch" and/or "call me sometime" remark at the end of a first meeting. The last 4 girls did that and all ended up blowing me off.
I even had one girl who I met at a Tony Robbins seminar who I spent some time with ask me to go running with her and she reinforced that request a day later and even asked me for my schedule a few days later on the email....only to blow me off. I suspect she was seeing someone else and he won her over. There were hints from my conversations with her and she was a "9" on my scale and probably most other guys scales. Hell, I personally saw her get hit on 4 times. I also had another girl who emailed me after the meeting saying she had a lot of fun....only to blow me off...So just like you say "NEXT".
Anyway, I'm pretty sure I'm behaving the right way on these meetings and keep in mind they are cold contacts, so maybe that has something to do with it.
Last week I had a first meeting I met from online. She's cute and it seemed like we had a little chemistry. At the end when I hugged her goodbye she said..."let's keep in touch and call me sometime" and it seemed like in a not so genuine manner (No, it's not my current conditioning:-)).
I just smiled and laughed inside. Just thinking wow where did I hear that before. I left her a voice mail two days later just saying It was good meeting you and yes, I would like to keep in touch, so what I'll do is call you next week......
It would be nice to see her again, but I decided NOT to call her. First, I don't NEED to see her and 2) If she wants to see me well she has my email and phone #. I'm not that frustrated, but a little burned out on this certain BS behavior.
Hey man, if it was not for your materials I'd be tearing my hair out like I used a year ago. Would you call her? Have you experienced what I'm experiencing? ie multiple girls saying they want to see you again only to blow you off.
Your feedback and advice as always is greatly appreciated.
Blow-offs are inevitable. Don't worry about them, or focus on them. Just work right past them. Your attitude is right on about this, man. If they don't want to play in your pool, NEXT!
Let me give you an analogy:
Ever drive through a parking lot and have to go over a ridiculous number of speed bumps just to get to the other side?
I do. In the parking lot where my studio is, I regularly stop over at a food place that's about a 1/4 mile away. But there are over 14 speed bumps if you follow the front of the plaza. It's like off-roading through a minefield.
I dread that journey, even in my Jeep.
It becomes something you dread and you avoid. So instead of dreading this, I chose a different path through the center. I go the longer route so that I only hit 2 of them.
And now I'm happier.
But any day now, they could throw in 10 more speed bumps on my new route. And I'd just have to learn to live with it.
The moral of my story?
The only way to improve your blow-off ratio is to understand one thing very clearly: Women are flakier than a 3-day old croissant.
If you improve your game up-front, you can improve your hitting ratio. But you will always have women that don't pan out.STOP FOCUSING ON THEM!
Start increasing the numbers so that you get more successes and the flakey dames are forgotten faster than you can say, "Write down your phone number."
Ignore the speed bumps, or avoid them COMPLETELY
I've gone through many women doing the blow-off thing. And if you pay attention (which it sounds like you're able to now that you know what to watch out for), you'll discover that you know when they're going to do this to you if you watch for the signs.
The key is to TURN UP THE HEAT
as high as they can stand it during the first meeting. You need to create an exciting and sexually stimulating interaction with her, full of intense fun that will have her squirting pee if you're doing it right.
I'm serious here!
Get her so amped up about the interaction that she simply MUST
see you again. That's the best way to avoid blow-off.
In other words, don't just meet her for coffee, even if that's what you're doing on the OUTSIDE
You have to make it THE most stimulating coffee date she's ever had by teasing her, making her laugh, making her think, and giving her a ROCKING emotional ride with you.
I'll bet that even though there was some attraction going on, things didn't move along quite as well as they needed to on that meeting of yours.
I'm going to cover more of these skills in the next few Audio Coaching sessions
. We're going to cover storytelling and other strategies to turn the most boring and mundane situations to your advantage. It's all about escalating the sexual tension until it's unbearable. You'll either have her jumping YOU for the kiss, or she'll have to leave to escape it. And if she does, good riddance.
So the key is to not let the blow-offs rattle you. 90% of all chicks do this, and it comes with the territory. The best you can do is to keep AMPing
up those interactions you have when you do meet with them.
Oh, and don't ever let a woman get away with the insulting phrase of "let's keep in touch." Bust her balls on it a little. And keep in mind that it's a dead giveaway that she's not interested. If she were, she'd be telling you when she wants to see you again...