Tuesday, May 31, 2005

This week's newsletter...

Well, I decided to experiment a bit this month. I didn't get to do a Q&A, but I did a quick draft of a new newsletter format. I'll be using this format in the future for special reports.

Download it here and tell me what you think...


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AUDIO SESSION 21 is available!

Guys, The June Audio session is now available... You can get it HERE...

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A few guys have asked what an RSS feed is. Here's a description, and a link to where you can get your own newsreader:

Read this article for an explanation of RSS

And click here to get your own free newsreader:



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Monday, May 30, 2005


Well, I've got a cool new newsletter format for you guys... I'll send you a download link tomorrow.. for now, I've got to get some "work" done... :-D

Oh, and just to let you guys know that there will be a special audio segment hosted on Thundercat's Lair from time to time. I'll let you know when this becomes available...

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I'm writing to you from Stockholm, Sweden after reading your Alpha Male ebook. First of I must say thank you for getting me back on track! I've been in a slump for the past 10 months or so. Depending on a lot of things, work, relationships, kids and you name it. During this period, untill now, I've been a typical Beta Guy... Wich I'm not at all usually.

The problem is that the core problem for me has been a relationship problem that really cost me both emotional as well as economy downfall. I don't really now what started the process, but it doesn't matter anymore. For now I'm gonna work it out to my liking!

I just have a question for you, and I hope you can give me an honest answer!? If you have had a relationship that ended much depending on you becoming a beta guy from your original alpha man is there any possibilities to mend that relation again by becoming, once again, the mn you used to be? Even if the woman left you and said it was no chance to ever go on, and she has closed her door to her old life and getting new friends and maybe even a new boyfriend, don't really know about that one tough.

I belive it's possible. If she once fell for you it must be possible to make her fall again, even if it takes a while. I don't like to loose in anything, maybe that's why I can't let her go and stop thinking about her.

Any input would be appriciated and please don't just tell me to buy this or that ebook.

Thanks in advance,

M ---------------

Well, I'm not going to tell you to buy my book if you already have it, dude. I just get a ton of questions from guys who won't make an investment to improve themselves. They're not really interested in growing, just finding the quickest fix, which is the quickest way to failure.

And you can tell that they're just fishing around, not focused on really developing their skill with women.

You, on the other hand, DID invest in my program and you know that they make a difference, and for that I'll give you some answers...

You can make a woman interested again, but the effort you end up putting into it is too much and misdirected.

For 1/10th the energy you could start a new relationship with someone, and start it on the right terms. If you go back to this girl, even if you manage to get her back, you'll already be one-step down. In her mind, she's established you as not being Alpha, and she'll forever suspect that your "change" is just an act. After all, she's seen what she thinks is the "real" you.

Men don't like to lose things, especially women. But the single best thing you can do for your attitude and Alpha Status is to meet enough NEW women that you overcome this obsession with her.

Remember that the pain will be with you for a while, and you'll think that the way to alleviate the pain is to go back and fix what you messed up.

The more you work on this one that got away, the more of a toll you take on your self-esteem and confidence. It hurts you so much more to go for the win-back. For every attempt you make that doesn't work with her, you'll lose 10 points of esteem. For every new woman you meet and get with, you'll gain 20 points. And that will make her that much less important to you.

Ironically , the only thing you can do is to work your way through the pain, inch by inch. Step by step.

Don't live life in your rear-view mirror... You'll miss what's ahead of you...

And that's as honest as I can be.

- Carlos

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The Blog of the world is now going to open up ...

That's right, you heard it here. We're now going to allow you guys to enter your own articles on the site!

Have a tip you think would help other guys? Send it in!

All submissions should contain your email address, your article or short tip, and your handle (nickname.)

Start sending your submissions now. I'll be posting these to the sites in the near future.


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Here's an email I got today.

It really makes me happy when I know that my stuff is helping you guys like this.


Dude, You totally saved my life. After a year long relationship my girlfriend dumped me apparently for a surgeon. You have no idea how messed up I was , but after 4 days of feeling like a total looser I decided to take matters in my own hands. I stopped calling her and have not heard from her since, that was almost two months ago. Got your e-book and audio sessions and to tell you the truth things are going great, though I still have a long way to go. I had no idea how easy it was to talk to women, get their phone number, go out on dates, etc. Turns out a lot of women at the hospital wanted to date me for a long time. So to keep this short I once again thank you for everything. JCAT

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Here's a quick Q&A:

well yesterday i was in line getting some clothes and these two hot girls
were in front of me. one turned around, i saw in the corner of my eye and
she quickly whirled the other way, but i wasn't staring at her or anything.
it was just a quick glance.

and then last night at a party this girl i used to like did it whenever i
entered the room. i would briefly make eye contact and she tries to make it
seem she was never looking at me. and whenever i ask her how shes doing and
everything, she always gives me short answers even on open ended questions.
the thing that baffles me is i'm not threatening to her in anyway. I try to
make nice conversation.

This is that skittish, weird, check-him-out behavior that young girls exhibit. They're pretty flakey.

That second girl doesn't sound that into you, dude. You pushed the eye contact before making any kind of regular contact or talk, or even rapport, and that's creepy.

And stop making "nice" conversation. Get yourself on the train to AMP'd up conversation (as I discuss in Secrets of the Alpha Man...) Make it charged and interesting...

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Blogs rock

Boy, are you guys going to be in for a treat... I'm testing out this blog software, and I have to say it just rocks...

For those of you that aren't familiar, blogs are the latest in staying in touch and organizing data. You'll be able to add my Blog page to your Internet Browser bookmarks and see within MINUTES when I've added new information.

Pretty cool, huh?

If you have a Mac, or you are currently getting news feeds from RSS or Atom, here's the link for my feed:


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Day One

Well, here's my first entry in an ongoing saga of women, pickup, and life in the single zone...

I hope you'll return regularly for this. I may even begin to post the newsletter in this format, or on this page. I'll keep you posted on that effort, though.

I've been looking around at a lot of the other guys out there contributing to this world of Seduction, and I hope to have some recommendations for you on products in the very near future. I'm going to be doing some interview action with MothaB soon, and there are others interested in expanding this community.

Oh, did I tell you guys I was interviewed for British FM radio? The station is called Utopia FM, and it's hosted over in the UK. I'll let you know when you can hear some of it. I may be able to get a copy for posting here. We'll see how the bandwidth permits.


Well, I'm wondering if you guys have any feedback on this... Is it bad protocol to give food you got from one woman over to another that you meet later in the weekend?


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