Sunday, July 30, 2006

No time... No game.

Hey Carlos. .Steve here.  Really & truly you hit Home Runs time & again with your insights.  I know, you've heard it all before but HAVE DUG DEEP & extracted and mined SOLID GOLD & DIAMONDS already finished to be procured by people who want to learn.. I feel like we are friends too. Because you have opened up about your family with personal info on the Alpha program.  

Carlos, like I said.  you are a GREAT coach..and I let you know my situation (90 hrs. work weeks.)  so it's a challenge.  I have GAME but NO TIME..  

I will order your Dating Black Book next... what can I say dude.  

Regards, Steve S.



Indeed... what can you say. I'm glad you picked up on my openness. A lot of so-called gurus out there will avoid being vulnerable and R.E.A.L. with you. I'm not afraid to let you know that I'm an authentic man. With vulnerabilities and faults. (Ironically, it's these qualities that women find attractive. Go figure.)

Just a note for you guys out there - remember that you must have at least SOME time available for meeting women or you will lose that Game you cherish.

You gotta stay in practice. Even if it's only practicing on the women you work with, you gotta use it - or you WILL lose it.

So find the time and get out there with the ladies...

Trust me. They're waiting for more Alpha Men.

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Friday, July 28, 2006

Spice it up!


Thanks again for your great work. Once again I have to tell you how much I like your approach of dating and life as an alpha male in general. It is very close to my own beliefs.

You mention in this newsletter that you have worked in the IT field. I have a question about this.

When women ask what I do in life and I answer that I work as a telecommunication analyst, my answer is usually followed by either a long, awkward silence or a eeeewwwww comment... not very sexy as a profession to say the least...

How do you deal (or have dealt) with this?

Keep up the good work.

J. L.


Well, handling this situation comes down to the following logic:

1) I kept getting this question from women: "What do you do..." Hmm....

2) I would eventually tease them and joke with the women that asked it. "What, are you a gold digger or something? I only date VERY rich women. I'm looking for a sugar momma."

3) After funning with them for a bit, inevitably I would still have to answer the original question in some way. (Or you look like you're avoiding the question and, therefore, embarrassed about your profession.)

So after the umpteenth time of being asked this, I knew I had to have my teasing/funny and cocky answer, and then my "blow them away" answer.

Here's what I did:

1) First of all come up with a way of looking at your job in a whole new way. Don't just look at it as what it is (or appears to be) but what it COULD be... Example: My mom worked with a guy who replaced light tubes in the classrooms of a local college. He described himself as a "lighting design technician." He thought outside The Box.

2) Use your passion as your description of "what you do." It doesn't have to be your JOB. (Unless the two are the same.) When I was working in IT (Information Technology) I would describe myself as a technical artist, facilitating the communication of people around the world. I was driven to create

3) Use either as your answer. Or both. (Preferred.)  Remember, it's not the answer that really matters. It's HOW YOU PRESENT IT.

It's not that you're a telecommunications analyst. It's that you didn't present it with the conviction and belief of an Alpha Man.

I cover what you need to do to develop this Alpha Power in your life (and in how you present what you do, which I cover specifically in the e-book) in the Secrets of the Alpha Man Program.

It's what you need to develop the inner game that will make your life what YOU want it to be.

And not just with women...

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Wednesday, July 26, 2006

Is it really lying?

Dear Carlos,

I'm really confused about this. Today, I did another marathon-session of searching through two dating sites. Those two Dutch dating sites use checkboxes in the profiles. You should mark if you (man or woman) want kids, yes or no.

Now this causes a big problem for me. I know for sure that I absolutely don't want any kids. But nearly every woman on these sites marks her checkbox with "yes" for kids. There are only 6 (!) woman in a radius of 50 miles that said "no" to wanting kids.

Should I change my preference to yes instead? I am not fond of lying to a woman but it will increase my responses a lot I think. There are no doubt tons of women who discard me only because I don't want any kids.

I have no problem with a woman that already has 1 kid.

Can you give me your opinions on this matter?

Thank you very much on your info, hope to see you on the Cliff's List 2006 DVD's.



Okay, everyone. Are you ready for a big dose of reality?

Here it comes.

Most women want children.

Yes, it's true. That hard-wired genetic fact will someday come to haunt all of you. I could tell you that some do and some don't, and you just have to look, but the reality is that most will. Not all, but most.

Even the women out there reading this saying, "I don't want children!" are really just a few years ahead of their biological imperative (also known as an alarm clock) that will go off one day to the tune of "Show me the Baby!" I've seen this happen so many times it ain't funny.

Sometimes that alarm clock will wait until her early 40's, too.

Yes, I sometimes sound like I'm exaggerating, and there are always exceptions to the rules, but this is one that bears noting, because if you go into denial and think that you'll just scoop up a woman that doesn't want kids and that will never change - well, guess again.

So what you have to do is reconcile the following:

1) Why don't you want to have kids?

2) Could it be that you just don't want them right now?

3) If you found a woman that met all your other needs, is this something you could accept and sacrifice for her later?

4) Would you maybe want a woman that has older children later on? (You said this was a possibility. What if she wants more?)

Once you understand your decision, you can figure out how best to search for a woman, and whether this may change in the future. Sometimes it's enough for a woman if you just tell her up front that you don't want children now, but you may later.

No one can see what the future will bring. You can't misrepresent a future that no one knows for certain.

So, that being said, if you can't say with 100% certainty that you will NEVER want children, you are not misleading her if you are up-front later on. (I have seen that most dating sites let you choose "maybe" or "not sure" as an option.)

She answered that question with a click of a mouse that you weren't there to witness. She might change her mind later, too. Or, maybe all the women who want children are using online dating right now. Consider using more methods to meet more women. I'm sure there are more than 6 on your area.

Open up opportunities for yourself, but do not mislead or lie.

I'd consider joining more dating services to cast a wider net. And if the prospect of a small pool of eligible candidates is scary to you, consider changing yourself instead of the rest of the world. It's far easier.

Oh, and you will most definitely see me on the next Cliff's List seminar DVDs. Mine was one of the most popular presentations given, so you'll be getting a real treat when this comes out on DVD later this year.

For now, you should take a look at my Alpha Immersion DVD Program if you want to get the vital parts of this seminar right now...

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Sunday, July 23, 2006

What to say (and NOT to say) to women...

Carlos,  I followed your tactics to the letter "T" and managed to get a few very attractive girls phone numbers from Myspace.Com.  These girls seemed to be blown away by my emails, which are simular to the ones you send.  All 3 girls denied the request to give me there number on my 3rd email, however after a couple more exchanges via email/Chat, they all gave it up.  I always wait a minimum 2 days before I call and NEVER on a weekend.

*First Girl (Taylor)*
I called last week and said hi, I'm Jim from Myspace.  She was like, "Hey".  I asked her what she was doing and she replied, " I'm bowling with my friends".  I figured there was no way I could hold a conversation with her when she was having fun bowling with her friends.   I said, "ok and that I would call another time."

I called her 3 days later, and got her voice mail, leaving a message that said, Hey Taylor this is Jim, I had a few minutes and thought I'd see whats up.  At any rate I'll call you some other time."  I called a few days later only to her never answering the phone for me, so I left her my last message that said, Taylor this is Jim, either your screening your calls or playing hard to get, thats cute.  I figured I would try you one last time.

*Second Girl (Kaitlyn)*
I  got her number on Friday and decided to call it tonight, late Sunday night.  I called and said,

Jim: Heya Kaitlyn this is Jim from Myspace.  
Jim: Heya Kaitlyn this is Jim from myspace.
Kaitlyn: hey
Jim: What are you doing?
Kaitlyn: Driving to a Graduation party.
Jim: Graduation Party in the middle of July, aren't they usually
held in June.
Kaitlyn: Yea and I have to babysit tomorrow.
Jim: That is going to be miserable for you tomorrow.
Kaitlyn: I can handle the mornings after party.
Jim: you get a little older those mornings get rough.
Jim: so what is grotton like I never have heard of it.
Kaitlyn: Its a small boring town
Jim: no Macdonald's???
Kaitlyn: None

Uncomfortable silence

Jim: we had a block party here this past weekend, It was neat.   They
close the road and all the neighbors get together congregating in
the road playing beer pong and dancing.  It was alot of fun
Kaitlyn: Cool........Im gonna have to let you go before I lose cell service.
Jim: Ok I'll talk to you later

Total time on the phone 3:13 seconds.  I wasn't at a point to where I could end the conversation.

*Third Girl {Christina} *Now I went at this a little different, I didn't want to ask what they were doing to cut me off so short.  I shot
into conversation mode, and failed.

Jim: Is this Christina?
Christina: yes
Jim: This is Jim from Myspace
Christina: oh hey, how are you.
Jim: how was your wedding?
Christina: Good
Jim: Did you get drunk like a bad lil girl
Christina:no my family was there.
Jim: Oh I don't believe they are really that hard on you.
Christina: laughing....oh they are
Jim: so do you have any brother or sisters
Christina: 3 half sisters.
  Jim: who (got cut off)
Christina: Hey I am watching a movie so I'll call you tomorrow or
  something.Jim: ok Later

To summarize this Carlos, your methods to getting there phone number is great.  The 3rd email may not get it, but it appears the next email will.  How do we handle these first calls.  Keep in mind they are 19-21 year old girls.  I am gonna have to at least talk to them on the phone twice before trying to set something up.  

Right now bro, I am discouraged.  Pick me up!:)  I need to be better prepared to first phone calls and first meetings.  I wish you have ALOT more info on those 2 areas.  After the second date, I think I can't take it from there......

Thanks Bro, enjoy the sun


You need to bust their chops a LOT more. 19-21 year old girls need a LOT of energy in the conversation or they’re going to check out. You just can’t ask boring questions and get away with it.

AMP up the energy – big time.

Remember the "E" in REAL is "Effective & Energized."

The one thing I see guys doing wrong all the time is that they go into an interaction with a woman and have a lazy, lose, hanging-with-the-boys attitude that is SO uninteresting to younger women.

Girls have an attention span of a ferret on Crystal Meth, as I like to say. They need more stimulation than an eight-year-old that is hard-wired into his X-box.

Here are some new things to say. Start busting these girl's chops:

- Hey, are you one of those crazy chicks that sets up her Myspace page just so she can look popular?

- Hey, I’m calling you because your Myspace page looks like my kid sister put it together. Do you really like that band “XXXXXX”?

- Is it true that Myspace girls are all spoiled little sorority girls?

Get things riled up with them... Be brave. What have you got to lose but a couple of cheesy ex-cheerleaders with no clue of how the world works.....

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Saturday, July 22, 2006

Life Lessons From a Recovering Alpha Man

I’m including this “Life experience report" to highlight that EVERY guy out there has challenges, and that we can all bounce back from them.

His story highlights some things that are uncomfortable for a lot of guys to admit, but once you get REAL, you'll understand that telling yourself lies about why you're not having success with women is actually crippling your recovery.

Now, parts of this mail might read like it’s about promoting my stuff, but that’s not why it’s here at all, and I know you guys are smart enough to know my quality of character by now. I want you to pay particular attention to the experiences he went through. This is more important.

And also watch for the indications of poisonous, using women. They are out there.

Thanks to him for sharing this stuff with us ...



I wanted to relate my story to you and your students about the great work you do. None of this is easy to share. I will admit that I violated most all of your teachings with a woman and received exactly what I deserved. Which is great because it brought me to the reality that I had no clue about women. Even with past success, I had no idea why I had that success. That is sooooo important. Your success starts on the inside, in every aspect of life. That is the fundamental reason Carlos' program stands miles ahead of the rest.

He focuses on bringing out the person you already are on the inside and works on making you a total man. With that you can have success with all types of women. Without working from the inside out, you will be like me, getting by on being decent looking and making decent money and not having a clue why you're having success. When you are like that, one of two things will eventually happen, you'll have a fall or you'll rush in, get married and have an even worse fall. The first one is way better and it is what happened to me.

I am 32. Through my early 20s, I slept with a lot of women while I was going to professional school and after when I was out in the working world. There were some attractive ones, some less than attractive ones, nice, not so nice, etc... All the while, I had no clue what I was doing, and no clue what I was after, and most importantly no clue who I was as a man.

I met a girl on-line when I was 31 and proceeded to violate every piece of advice I would later get from Carlos. If your readers read my testimonial, they will likely see a little of themselves in some portion of it. Hopefully not too much, because I was a complete loser. I want them to relate and I hope it helps them in choosing to buy your course. It is an easy choice from where I sit today.

Anyway, back to the girl. Early 20s, smallish in stature, ex swimwear model, very attractive, but truthfully on par with others I had been with, definitely not a stand-out above them. But, there was something about her that drove me to do a lot of dumb things. This was because I had not met Carlos' material. We traded emails for about two weeks and they got way personal, way quick. It took me a good week before I asked for her number. When I called the conversations were flat, which I was used to because I always hating talking to a woman on the phone. The emails kept going back and forth and before you know it, I am obsessing over someone I never met. Were trading I miss you and lovey-dovey stuff. But each time we get ready to meet, she cancels on me at the last minute for family stuff that pops up (I think maybe a grandfather got really ill or something was one of them). Any way red flags were abounding.

Then, one day out of the blue after we talked a few more times, I get an email saying that she met someone else and that it was exclusive, strong connection, blah, blah, blah. I went into a tailspin. Again, I am a professional in the financial industry, making good money, decent to above average looking, had slept with pretty women in the past, AND I have never met this person. When I look back on it, my reaction astounds me. I even kept trying to contact her by email thinking I could win her back. Pure silliness when I look back on it now.

Well, she gets so annoyed that she bluntly tells me to leave her and the new love of her life alone. (Again, this is embarrassing stuff to bring back up. But sit tight, it gets worse.)

I basically spend the next few weeks lost. Finally I send her an email and apologize for my behavior and ask her to accept me back into her life (or something pathetically similar to that). She even sort of admitted she was wrong for how she handled it (very rare for her) and I immediately let her off the hook there and told her she did nothing wrong. Frankly, I was behaving like a huge pussy throughout all this. Plus, I am in delusion-ville thinking that if I can be her friend, I can weasel in to be her lover, if something happens with this other guy. Jeez, this is embarrassing how lame I was.

Well, soon after I get an email saying that they broke it off. I had been spending my waking hours working, barely dating at all and obsessing over this very occurrence. When it happens, I talk with her and immediately go into friend supportive guy mode and continue to behave like a complete wuss. Basically, seeking her approval and trying to get the first date I never got. Finally 3 months or more later, she agrees to meet me because I need an assistant for a new business venture and she needs money. She is even more gorgeous in person and I flip again. Mind you all I have seen from this girl is overall a poor character, a lack of ambition, and a general disregard for me. It didn't matter, I am scoring her passing grades in all those important areas.. What I like to refer to now as extra credit for being pretty, or hot points. Very delusional thinking and therefore very dangerous.

After all this, I am even being the nice guy and not hitting on her at all when we meet. I sit idly by while she moves in with this teenage guy who spends his day alternating between a minimum wage job at some coffee stand and doing drugs. Ever the manipulator, the girl refers to him as a friend long enough to get me giving her money for jobs she flat out fails to complete. One time, I even accepted that the dog had pooped on the paperwork she had completed in the car. I am buying all this thinking that if I help her through this rough stretch, she'll see what a nice guy I am she'll be mine. (Guys, remember, I have a masters degree. I mean to say I am not stupid!!)

She hides the fact they were more than friends for as long as possible to get me accepting the nice guy role. The guy gets her pregnant and she calls me in extreme financial hardship. Up until then, according to her, they were just friends or something. Smart. What "nice guy" is going to jump on her for being a liar, when A. She technically didn't lie, she just didn't tell what was going on. I didn't even ask. What a huge pussy. B. She is in distress. So I start to be the occasional benefactor whenever they need cash over the next few months. I would only hear from her on those occasions. When she needed money. She continually gushed about what a great and true "friend" I was and how she'll always "love and adore" me. yada, yada, yada. I even bought her a present for her birthday. It is obvious to anyone reading this, that I was completely in la la land at that point. And maybe the biggest waste of a man on the planet.

Well during this, the guy beat her, he got her pregnant and forced her to get an abortion, I think he even broke her arm at one point. Then he left her.

That's when she calls me and asks me for a bunch of cash, which I of course give her. Of course I am thinking that I can swoop in as the nice guy and make her mine. I get more assertive asking her to go out. She has an excuse each and every time, but now throwing in that she does "have feelings" for me, but that she is not ready, etc. etc. Looking back, she probably knew she had to start saying things like this, to keep me hanging around for hand outs. Well soon after she and I are talking and she tells me how touched she was to hear from one of her friends that the guy who beat her and left her was crying over her and wanted her back. Within a week, they are back together. She tells me that life was just so hard and that she needs my support on this and a bunch of other stuff about giving him one last chance.

I was all weenie whiney devastated again but proceed to tell her that I will always be there for her. (Remember, when you have no inner game, but you have the good guy card and that is all you believe works, you actually resort to trying to out good guy your earlier good guy behavior. Like that will make a difference, when the evidence has shown you it is a failure.) So now I am verbally committed to being a complete pussy, whipping boy, cream puff, and I still haven't gone out one time with this girl. During all this year long period, I date sporadically and had sex maybe one time, again not having a clue what I was doing with these women. My mind was fixated on this girl.

I throw money at her periodically when she calls and asks. I mean I am the "nice guy who any girl would be lucky to have". All the while, more of the same with the boyfriend until finally they break- up. She immediately goes into the I'm not ready for a boyfriend and I want to be on my own thing. About a week later, a new "friend" arrives on the scene. He is the original good guy. He buys her food, he takes her places when she needs it, he gets her to her doctor's appointments. (Oh I didn't mention she is a hypochondriac with mental problems.)

She moves in with him but feeds me the line I want to hear, they are just friends. She hits me up for some more money over the next few months. Eventually I ask her to a function at work as my date. She wants to know if it would be ok if we brought the friend along too. I am flabbergasted and ask her if they are a couple. She finally admits it, after filching me for hundreds more for months. The chances are that they were together all along. (So says Mr. Obvious)

Even after that, I help them get some money together for a car. He doesn't have any money either, but at least he doesn't beat her. She tried to play up that her and I are great friends and that her boyfriend won't interfere with that. And when I started to grow a pair to call her BS on the friend thing, she lets me know that we can hang out and he won't come around and that she didn't hang out with me in the past because of boyfriend #1's jealousy. Just total lost crap.

Well, the icing on the cake was when I come to find out they are actually married and had been for quite some time. And she is shaking me down for money.

I new things had to change, because I knew in my gut throughout all this, that I was not doing right. But I seriously didn't know the right way to do things. Around this time, late last year, I found Carlos on line and got his materials, the home study Alpha male course and devoured it. I had to admit to myself that despite past success, I didn't know a damn thing and that I actually was harming myself with my lack of inner game.

I immediately broke off all contact with this girl and told her that the whole friend thing was crap from the beginning. I was just being phony and a gutless wimp. I didn't enter her life as a friend, it didn't interest me to have a friendship with someone of her caliber, and that she had never behaved as a friend. I pointed out all the crap she pulled and she erupted and started running lie after lie after lie and attacked me. Accusing me of trying to break up her marriage or something. But I was free. Free to become the man the I was created to be. Free to take Carlos' course methods and go meet real women, on my terms.

Obviously, I made more mistakes than you can count. ,The dangers of having no inner game and especially self-delusion are many and can be extreme. I hope this helps you and your students see the devastation these things can reap on a man. Also when I look back on it, I was social programmed away from building on my success with women in my early 20s. I started to believe all the media BS that having sex without commitment was wrong to "innocent" women and I actually made a conscious effort to be "nicer" and "sensitive". With that approach and my self-delusional mindset, I basically gave away 2 years of my dating life over someone who could have cared less. If I had known about Carlos in my early 20s, all of it would never have occurred.

Here's how it would have went:

--I would have had multiple women going at once on line, choosing the ones who met my standards, not only in looks and character and ambitions, and throwing the rest back.

--This girl who reaped so much suffering on me, would have never survived the first cut.

Scary to think about. The difference the right inner game can make in a man's life.

Some advice I learned through Carlos, if you guys care to read it:

--Do not ever give a girl credit for something they are not. Making them aware that they have short comings that may disqualify them is actually good for you, because it shows you have standards and expectations. A must.

--Don't delude yourself ever. You must have firm grasp of reality. If a girl is not going out with you, you are doing a lousy job generating attraction. Consult Carlos' material and get busy generating attraction. The druggie teen ager with the nowhere job in my story, he generated attraction. In the final analysis, that is really all that counts. It didn't matter how much money I made, how good looking I was, how nice I was. None of it. Don't kid yourself: Falling back to the "friend" or "nice guy" position is actually harmful to your chances of getting with whatever girl and is destructive to you as a man.

--Be meeting and qualifying many women at a time. This keeps you from getting desperate and becoming weak or groveling to one woman. It also gives you the opportunity to gain experience in Carlos' teachings. I was like a first grader when I got out there and starting doing things the right way. But I am getting better with practice. Most importantly, I am a real guy and embracing it. With this, my ability to attract women has shot way up. That's the beauty of working on your inner game. It comes through without even trying. It is the real you and it draws women in. I also believe women can sense if you are a wanted by other women or not. It is a vibe real guys give off.

--Stop being a people pleaser. Do what you know is right, have standards, stick to them and make no apologies. Women actually love this. The ones that don't, have character flaws that you probably don't want around you. Guys, as strange as it might seem, after all I did for that girl in my story and all my acts of kindness-- I didn't really generate real feelings of attraction with her until I blew her off, told her the truth, admitted what a pussy I had been and stuck to what I know to be right. It isn't logical in the way we guys would like it to be, it's women.

--Stay clear of women with psychological issues. There are so many women. It just isn't worth it. Be their friend if you have the time and energy to do it. But don't lie to yourself that you are hanging around them to be there friend when you're not. If you want to sleep with them, stop and think about it, don't do it and keep practicing what Carlos teaches. You'll soon have so many options that sleeping with or having a relationship with someone who has those problems won't seem like a good choice.

--Stay clear of women who have no goals or ambitions. Again, there are so many women, why sell yourself short. They are either drainers or helpers. There is no in between category. Women who are attractive, but desire nothing for themselves, are harmful to your ambitions and will drain you.

--Take responsibility for yourself. My story could come across to you as being blameful of what another person did to me. It is not meant to. I did that to myself. If someone manipulates you or uses you, you are over half at fault on the first occurrence and 100% on any occurrence after that. You are responsible. I was responsible.

Thanks to Carlos, I quit my corporate career and went out to build a stock brokerage business on my own, helping entrepreneurs fund start-up projects. I currently have less money and status and props like cars and clothes, but I have had greater success with women. I am currently seeing a beautiful dancer with a ballet company. She has class, and brains and understands what I expect, and respects me as a man. I don't fall easy. Her beauty isn't enough. She is free to go if she wants something besides what I am about; and knowing that seems to make me more of a prize to her. Hopefully, I am honoring Carlos' course material. My life physically, spiritually and emotionally is balanced and I am having a great time.

I admit that I needed more help than probably most guys out there. The change in core attitude and approach from your materials made the difference for me.

Mike. Chicago, IL



Something I want to point out here is that even though his money may be low now, he will have unparalleled success in the future because of the risk he’s taking now.

He'll have the life he wants, and the self-respect and dignity that others will only envy.

If you want this success in your life, I can only tell you to go HERE.

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Friday, July 21, 2006

Questions to Ignore

Man I know that someone has asked you this before, but for a refresher I was wondering when and what questions are good to dodge from women.
I was good enough to meet her and get her number, then once we started talking on the phone I felt as I was getting the third degree. For the most part I don't offer to much information at all.
She asked me where I worked work, my age, my middle name???, and the normal stuff you would expect when you get to know someone.
But I felt a few RED flags were raised on a few of the simple questions. Like where I work. I basically let her pull the information out of me. She asked me I told her the City, She asked again I told her the company, She asked again I told her the department and then I moved on to me asking her what she did. I don't think that I messed up too bad since she has called me again.
But, why should I have to apply and interview when I already have a job. I do realize that people in general place value on material things and that drives me crazy that I have to be something that I am not in order to win over a woman. I would like to turn the tables and put them on the spot.
My question is really how?
- Tony
Washington, DC.


Tony, I would love to give you a clear-cut, black-and-white answer for this, but...

Knowing what to answer when you approach women and she asks you a question is really more a matter of my question:

"Why is she getting the control of the conversation?"

That's what questions are, by the way. Sometimes an interest indicator (I emphasize SOMETIMES), and sometimes a tool of keeping you on the defense, but the reality is that the one who is asking the questions controls the conversation.

You don't need to worry about ducking the questions if you're the one asking them.

And you don't have to worry about them if you're the one answering them and you feel confident asking them.

Natural conversation (something that is almost impossible to have in most bar and club situations) mandates that it should flow nicely, back and forth. Like waves on a pier.

But it so rarely does. Instead, it does tend to become a struggle for control.

The question is also not what questions to avoid, but can you just sit there and not answer her, confidently?

The question is: WHY do you feel you must answer?

And your best defense is, how do you answer without answering?

Why not ask her: "Wow, you sure are curious. Is this a test? How am I doing? I sure would hate not to pass this one." (With an air of delicate sarcasm.) "Don't worry, Suzie. There's no need to rush. I'll probably live in this city for at least another year or so." Smile.

Always go into a conversation with the knowledge that YOU control it, and YOU can walk away at any time, and anything she says can NEVER challenge your worth or sense of power.

Learn more about conversational control when you Approach Women

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Thursday, July 20, 2006

Check out this post for now...

CARLOS!! I did something that I'm pretty proud of, and really, all I did was step in shit! Check it out:
Some time ago I went to my local bar and at the end was a cute blonde I never saw there before. I order my beer and immediately sit next to her. She was watching SportsCenter on ESPN and I instantly use it as my opening line, "Did they mention the Mets score?"
"Yes, I believe they said they lost 6-7...I'm just looking for the Yankees score."
"Yankees? Feh, I can see we're not going to get have a lot to learn."
And so it went on for a while. It was pleasant conversation, laughing, general topics, she really wasn't the end all be all for me, but I used the opportunity to work on my delivery, and technique. She excused herself to leave because of work in the morning- she can tell that I was a regular because during the conversation many people walked up to me to say hi. We exchanged names, and she mentioned "Maybe we'll run into each other again, you frequent this bar right?"
"From time to time yes, have a nice night."
And that was it.
This is the cool part. About a week and a half ago, I go to the bar and there she is ordering drinks for her and her sister. She introduces me to her sister, and mentions that she will be sitting at a table, come join them. I order my drink, say hello to some friends, and join them. I work on my two-set technique, chatting her sister and occasionally directing attention to my target, competive IOI's abound. It's all good fun--at one point her sister looks to me and asks "is this a topic you usually bring up to other girls?" To which I pause, look at her (pleasantly),  and continue with the subject (thanx for that tidbit from Secrets of the Alpha Man, Carlos. There was a time I would've fumbled right then, but your ebook really prepared me for that pitfall and many other "tests" they tried--it truly is a "game".)
Eventually, my target excuses herself to go to the bathroom, and as she leaves I turn to her sister and mention "your sister is adoreable." I could've used "hot" or "cute" or "pretty", but I chose a word to describe her personality rather than her looks. Worked like a charm. The sister goes on to tell me what a great girl she is, how giving and sweet, etc. When my target returns I notice the drinks were low, and since my target bought me a drink (first that ever happened to me), I excused myself to order another round. It was an opportunity for the girls to talk, and I noticed as I returned my target takes control of the pleasantries. Her sister eventually leaves us alone. Go figure! What was a simple compliment turned into a way for my targets sister to become my wingman! Her sister even took the initiative to get my targets business card and write her phone number and email address for me! Talk about pre-selection!
I can't tell you the world of difference your book and cd's have done for me. I am so much more comfortable in my skin, and what started as a way to never let what my ex-wife did to me happen again, has turned into a world of abundance.
I have to jet now, tomorrow I leave for a weekend in Conneticut with a paralegal I met sometime ago, and I have some things that I need to do first.
Thanx again, you da man!


If there's one part of this I want you to "get" it's this:

and I instantly use it as my opening line"

If you don't know why, take a look HERE

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On my way home...

Well, guys... Maui was wonderful, but it's time to get home and get back to work.

Time has flown, and now it's time for me to fly... (See if you can spot the REO Speedwagon song in there...)

I'll be posting some great new stuff this weekend.

Stay tuned.

Oh, and I can still get you in on my August Vegas bootcamp if you act FAST.

Email me here right away.

- Carlos X.

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Tuesday, July 18, 2006


Dear Carlos Xuma,
I first discovered you through the iTunes whenever I first got my iPod and have enjoyed your shows every since. The one critical thing I need to ask anybody such as yourself offering products to help guys achieve success for women is what advice do you give to disabled guys who are trying to find success with women?
I ask because I am 26 years old and was born with a birth defect called Spina Bifida. I have to walk around on crutches and all that but I still enjoy a pretty normal life despite my obstacles.
I have avoided the whole dating that for a long time because it has always been awkward for me to ask out able-bodied women since during the early years I would just get no where. I realize that despite what women say, they appear to be any more open-minded and non-judgmental than guys are and I can understand how uncomfortable it must be for a cripple to hit on them.

Never the less, I do want to experience romance, sex, and the rest at some point and in order to do that I need some strategy that will allow me to help women out there get over the whole disabled thing.
Do you know what I mean? What is your take on all of this?
Thank you for reading my email and I look forward to receiving your reply.


J, one of the things I have learned over the years is that people can overcome seemingly insurmountable obstacles to achieve and get the things they want out of life.

But I'm not going to sit here and blow smoke up your ass and tell you that it will be a breeze. You do have some obstacles. The reality is that most women ARE judgmental. They are usually the first to say it, too, so this isn't going to be news anywhere.

The message I want you to hear, though, is that you WILL overcome your limitations if you persevere.

The first thing you must have is an unqualified, TOTAL belief in the value you have to offer another woman. Without this, it's all just talk and wishful thinking.

Be careful that you don't program yourself with what I call "internal Negs." This is where you try to come to terms with a limitation, and you use it (sometimes jokingly) openly to lower other people's discomfort with it. Sometimes this is self-deprecating.

From now on, I want you to ban the word cripple out of your vocabulary. Not in some dumb version of "political correctness" but only because it carries significant emotional weight in your mind. It's a charge word that does NOT lift your self-esteem. Banish it.

What it does is send a negative message to your subconscious mind that you are less than other guys, or somehow flawed as compared with the rest of the population.

Trust me, I've met people with incredible physical limitations that were 10 times the man most other guys are.

Let me be clear on this: Just because you have a handicap, it does not mean that you need to lower your sites or expectations for what you want in a woman. You just may have to work a little harder to get it.

Once you come from a frame of belief in your value, the physical condition will disappear. Your attitude and enthusiasm will shine and you'll attract people like you wouldn't believe.

Look for women with a hint of emotional maturity as your starting point. (As every man should.) They will have the most capacity for acceptance and open-heartedness.

If you want to build that TOTAL belief in yourself, I suggest you start with The Secrets of the Alpha Man as your best resource...

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Saturday, July 15, 2006

Daily Practice


Thanks for this inspiration.

The Secrets of the Alpha Man program is in progress.

I have enrolled on a basic First Aid program and looking into the prospect of studying Aikido; this is all new for me but exciting at the same time.

I have started practicing the three foot, three second rule.  Anyone within three feet of me, I say "hi" man, women or child.  I come from a Caribbean back ground so I am use to people being friendly but here in London people take friendliness with some sort of suspicion.

I was walking through the park yesterday with a smile on my face and I tell you no lie all the pretty ladies smiled "back".

Said "Hi how's your day to been" to a lady at the supermarket and she said great and we had three minute dialogue.  This is great conditioning for my nervous system, women can be friendly if you sneak in under their radar.

I am not even half way through the program but I am noticing a shift in the way feel about myself as a man.

Thanks Carlos for helping me to see the bigger picture.




Something I've noticed about the themes of many of our speakers here at the seminar was that they all understood at some level what they needed to do to embody this kind of lifestyle.

You see, meeting and approaching women isn't a skill as much as it is a lifestyle and a way of identifying with this kind of process.

Most guys fail at improving their skills with women not because they are unattractive or dumb.
It's because they view these new skills - social skills - as being something different than who they are.

They don't identify with them.

Remember that you will not be able to exceed your own expectations for yourself.

If you can't see yourself doing something, chances are ... YOU WON'T.

But if you can modify your self-image to include a new way of thinking of who you are, you can become so much more. (this is something I cover in the live bootcamps)

Keep in mind that most of your experience of life is a result of your EXPECTATIONS.

If you think that women will be cold and distant, you'll react in ways and behave in ways that will make this come true.


Self-Fulfilling Prophecy.

You get from life what you expect.

The Alpha Man Program will help you change your expectations from life. Just like it did for him.

And I'm stealing that three-second/three-foot idea. It's a perfect enhancement to the 3-second rule.


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Wednesday, July 12, 2006


Hey ....

This is a short notice, but I wanted to let you know about something BIG.

I'm talking drop your remote and run to your computer. Oh, wait. You're already at your computer, aren't you?

Look, I'll make this short and sweet. I'm working with a promoter, and we're starting up seminars in LAS VEGAS starting in August.

Yeah, you heard that right.

Now this is brand new, and it's based on my Alpha Immersion seminar that I held here in San Francisco in March.

(If you want to hear what an incredible experience this was for the guys, watch the video on the web page here:

It's going to be 2 days, 2 nights in the hottest city on the planet for women and fun. Did I mention that the ladies would be there? Oh yes. They will.

I've also made some enhancements to the program, and it's going to be incredible.

Here's just a portion of what you'll learn:

- How to approach - the RIGHT way, with the REAL you
- How to open groups of people and kick-start your social life
- How to start attraction with women
- How to get a good 'look' for you
- How to manage one or many women in your life
- How to fix any issues in your body language
- How to take control of your thinking and get what you want - from LIFE
- How to create a genuine vibe and deep rapport with a woman
- How to get rid of approach phobia (approach anxiety)
- How to make the best initial impression
- More, more, MORE...

I'm not kidding when I tell you that this will be even bigger and badder (better!) than the last time. I'm even getting a special secret surprise workshop setup that will fix your game in minutes with women. I can't tell you everything about it, but it will be OUTSTANDING.

If you're interested, send me an email using this form:

Make sure you put in your message that you're interested in the seminar in Vegas.


WHEN is it?

Oh, yeah!

It's August 11-13. Friday night (starting at around 6:00 or so) and running straight through to Sunday afternoon at around 3:00.

I will NOT be accepting any more than 10-12 people for this event. Last time a guy from the UK tried to bribe me to be #13, and I had to turn him down. (It's not about the money, mate!)

So please let us know right away. You'll be able to reserve your spot in just a day or so, but I have to select the guys in advance.

Hope to hear from you soon...

- Carlos Xuma

PS: Again, if you have any doubts, just watch the video from the guys at the last seminar here:

And then send me an email from here:

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The Early "I Love You..."

Hi C,

I started up by subscribing to your newsletter. It happened when I moved out of the country for a few months, I decided that when I got back I no longer wanted to be the nice guy that everyone loves but actually be the one to get women. I searched quite a lot of websites... After quite a lot more rubbish and contradicting stuff I then found your website, by that point I was quite tired of looking for unconvincing material but I thought I couldn't do any harm to subscribe to the newsletter, so I did.

after several newsletters I realised I was onto a winner, your advice really started to make sense particularly because I've actually always been a pretty confident bloke I was just deluded about what women wanted, so I managed to pick up on stuff quite quickly without too much trouble. After a couple of months I decided to buy your Dating Black Book, which helped me so
much more. I must have read it through about 5 times now and always refer to points that I need help with (hence my previous question). I've also bought some audio sessions, which I enjoyed...

Thanks to your dating black book and newsletters my love life has improved a lot, so thanks a bunch.

I know in your black book you covered the early 'I love you', but I need a bit more detail if you can spare the time. Well I've been with a my girlfriend for about a month now, while I like her she does seem to be a bit needy/clingy. For the moment I can put up with this without much problem. However she has already said she loves me a few times. Now this freaks me out a little and confuses me, I find it hard to believe that she is in love with me already, I know I'm certainly not in love with her. When she says it, it makes me feel a bit guilty because I know I cant say it back.

So rather than put up with this I've been thinking of sitting her down and telling her that I don't want her to say it unless she really means it. It seems like a good idea to me if I say it right, but I don't want to be making a big mistake. Can you please give me some feedback, Carlos? it would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks, Elliot



Watch out for the needy/clingy thing. Right now, it feels good because you are still in that period of Limerance. (This is a term for that blind emotional state we fall into when we're in lust.)

A year or two of this kind of insecurity and you'll be opening your wrists or pulling a Superman off a tall building to get away from it. What starts out cute and gratifying to our own insecurities often drives us batshit later on.

If you're not in love with her, don't say it. It isn't true, and it would damage you both.

Right now you're still in this relationship out of guilt. It may be time to consider moving on. She's using emotional blackmail to keep you around right now, and that's not good. She's also immature enough to not know the difference between her fairy-tale love in her head, and the real love of a mature, committed relationship.

If it's scary now, it probably won't get better.

Bite the bullet and do the man's job here. You can start by sitting her down and telling her how you feel and tell her that if this is an issue for her, perhaps you should start 'seeing other people.'

(That's a clever term meaning that you're breaking up. Funny thing is that women use it on men like that's NOT what it means, and men just say they don't want to see her anymore.)

I will say that I would not hold much hope for her to change much, even after you sit her down. It's highly likely that you'll have a calm period, and then it will go right back into Needy-ville.

And then you may have to be the man again and do something a tad more permanent.

Remember what I teach in The Dating Black Book about the Dating Continuum... Follow that advice and you can't go wrong.

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Monday, July 10, 2006

Give her away...

Carlos Xuma,

I have been receiving Alpha emails for a short amount of time and the information sounds interesting.  I need some advice or publication that would help me out with my particular situation.  I have been dating this woman for 2 months and the 1st month went very well, had sex, she was calling me "sweetie" "honey" etc..  

Then she let me know 4 weeks after we had been dating that her ex-boyfriend of 3 years had called her to go to dinner (he broke up with her), I said "no problem if you need time to figure things take some time and call me in August".  She said that was not necessary, she still wanted to see me.  

Shortly after this we were out at the bar with some friends playing pool with some strangers and she kissed some random guy, so I went up, told the guy to back off and almost started a fight.  She told me to be mad at her and not the guy as it meant nothing to her, she was just flirting.  I told her this is not acceptable behavior around me and she agreed it would not happen again.  Should I dump her, or just pull back and call her in 3 weeks?

Thanks, DP


I read this and immediately had a vision of this woman, having dealt with many like her before. She's giving off red flags, but you're ignoring them for cheap superficial signals like affection and sex. Sorry to tell you, man ... these things are STANDARD EQUIPMENT with any woman. Your expectations are coming from a scarcity point of view.

Rarely do I feel that my advice needs to be so short and sweet, but if I were to sum it up in less than 10 words ....

Dump her. She’s a tramp.

She’s playing you and your emotions like a grand piano.

Any Alpha Man would have calmly broken it off with her the second she brought up an "ex" boyfriend. Chances are, she's his booty call, and you'll be the chump that nicely gives her some "space" while she goes off to have screaming, deep inner orgasms with him.

Sound a bit extreme?

Nope. Not a bit.

There's a difference between giving a woman space in a wimpy way and knowing when you're going down the old heartache trail. When a woman feels compelled to let you in on this information, it's a test or it's her way of letting you know that she's got unresolved feelings for him.

Oh, and for the record, she was actually right about something. You should have been mad at her instead of that guy. It was HER choice to jeopardize what she had with you. What you should have done was say, "Hey, man, you want her? She's cheap." Take a quarter from the change on the bar. "Okay, she's yours."

Letting him have her is even better than fighting him. Give the gift that keeps on giving, I say.

"Meant nothing," huh? If that was true, she wouldn't have kissed him. And if it was true, she lacks self-control. She'll be doing it again next week. Just try and get a restful night's sleep the next time she goes out "with the girls."

The next time this happens to you (I fear the lesson may not  be learned as deeply as possible yet), I want you to do this at the first sign of poor behavior or potential red flags:

Do not give her another chance!

You've already let her get away with two episodes of severe dating misconduct. You're demonstrating that you'll take anything she does as long as there's a chance you'll get some at a later date.

It's not about if you should dump her or wait 3 weeks. This is showing that you actually value her enough to want some kind of manipulative result. When a woman violates your standards of behavior in any way, she is GONE.

At least she is in my world.

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Saturday, July 08, 2006

Attract women with power

When I bought your book. I had just broken up with my girl. While I was single I had just started reading it and felt new to the game. As I studied more and more I got a couple chicks who were pretty cool but, when I learned they're flaws I went back with my girl of five years. I new it was a no-no, but I had improved myself so much by that point and she fell deep in love with me again.
I have changed so much in this past year. Buying and reading your book has changed me so much for the better. Not only for women but, in other aspects of my life as well. My career as a designer is starting to blossom now. Girls love me more than ever, my girlfriend is hella sprung like when we first dated. I feel like I can get any girl if I want too. lots of chicks give me buying signals. When some find out I'm taken they turn up the pressure on me hardcore. oh, and they're all hot too, Carlos! I damn near get teary eyed thinking about how happy I have become since "The [Dating Black] Book".
I have a question. I know you're totally against infidelity. But, hear me out. I get the most insane urges to f*ck other women. I am in love with her and would like to marry her in a few years, after we start our careers and all. But why do I get these urges? I think its my youth, but maybe I'm just sleazy. I mean C'mon Carlos. Famous men do it and they're wives stick with them. Is it only because of fame, power and wealth? Or, could any Alpha Man get away with this? What should I do?


There are a lot of things happening here, and each is equally worth noting.

First of all, I am against infidelity that is not previously agreed upon. Meaning, if you have an open relationship, fine. Boink the planet for all I care. (Just be wary of the risk for disease.)

I'm only against guys tricking or deceiving women into getting what they want. That's for chumps. Alpha Men know that all they have to do is be a REAL Man to get what they want.

If you are not looking for a serious relationship, there's nothing wrong with that.

Remember, nothing succeeds like success. Today's feast of women that APPEAR to be desiring you might actually dry up if you were to dump your current girl for the freedom.

You've heard the saying about "feast or famine"? That's why.

When you're feasting, your attitude is up, and you give off a real Alpha Vibe to all the women. When you don't have a woman, you look at all of them as your next best hope. And they sense it and quickly disappear.

That is why you must start these 'relationships' off on the right foot. Let her know up front that you're not looking to "settle down." Don't say it with words, say it with attitude. You should never have to explain yourself in words.

Famous figures appear to get away with this, but there's a reason. Many of the relationships aren't exactly healthy. There are many women who will put up with this kind of treatment (i.e., damaged goods) because they have no self-esteem. Still others are in relationships of convenience where they are affiliated with their partner, not in any kind of love. or connection. A certain ex-President comes to mind.

The bottom line is that if you want to go poking in new pastures, go ahead, but be honorable and let your woman know that you are not being monogamous. Being sly only undermines your Alpha Attitude.

And remember, the grass is ALWAYS greener. For now, you can mow as many lawns as you like.

The Alpha Immersion DVDs are your best bet for creating the kind of energy that this guy has. It's my latest program, and it's available NOW. Listen to what this guy has to say about it:

"Carlos, I just got my copy of the DVD's... Anyway, I just started watching the first DVD, and when you said it was gonna be packed full of information.. boy you weren't kidding! My hand got tired from all the notes I was taking!
"The sheer amount of information is incredible, and you just did and awesome job on it over all... i can't wait to get through the rest of it, and I'll probably write a full review at the end.. but for now I just wanted to thank you for this awesome product!"


CARLOS: Yeah, as long as that's the only reason your hand was tired. :-)

You can see that this DVD product is shaping up to be THE dating and attraction product of the year at this rate. My buddy Thundercat is also going to let his guys know about it, and I'm being flooded with orders. Be sure to get yours while my current supply holds out.

If you want to read about the ultimate attract women guide for men, Click HERE

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Friday, July 07, 2006

Check out this cartoon...

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Wednesday, July 05, 2006

Not so shameless...

Hey Carlos,
I’ve always been a bit of a lame-ass with women. I’d consider myself attractive and I’m not exactly shy, but I’ve always suffered in the company of women.
Since listening to your podcasts, and signing up for the Dating Dynamics program I have learnt a lot.  I now realise there is nothing to fear if you just be yourself.  Women don’t need special treatment.  They are no greater, or no worse than us men.  And I think I suffered before by putting the woman on a pedestal, to which I should bow to.  You are right in what you say.  Women want a man, that can take control, and dominate when they feel like.
Man…. Its great not being such a pussy anymore.

Having learned this I have to say I feel more confident, and more relaxed about the whole dating thing.
You provide a great service, and some great material, and I love listening over old stuff to keep a tight game.  I regularly go out cycling and listen to your latest advice on my iPod.  Its like you’re my personal dating guru.
Anyway, just wanted to say thanks man..
I’m sure one day I won’t need the advice anymore, but I’ll always be grateful for finding it out at all.


While this may seem like a shameless plug, it's really not.

What I wanted to point out in his email was the last line:

"I’m sure one day I won’t need the advice anymore, but I’ll always be grateful for finding it out at all."


That's the place that I want all guys to get to. The point where you no longer need to study this dating advice and you have it as part of your Alpha Man LIFESTYLE.

That's very important.

When you have your dominance established and you know that you're an Alpha Man, you'll be there.

And it's a great place to be.

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Do you know what PhD stands for?

There's a saying about degrees in this world:

BS = Bullshitter
BA = Bullshit artist
MBA = Master ...
And finally:
PhD. = Piled higher & Deeper.

Well, I'm all for higher education, as you're well aware. What I'm wondering is why so many of them are studying the things we already know. I got this list from an article that gave you the top ten warning signs that the man you're with will abuse you.

1. Does he drink to excess or use illicit drugs?
2. Has he ever been arrested?
3. Does he have very few long-term friendships?
4. Is he intensely possessive?
5. Does he say negative things about ex-girlfriends or his ex-wife?
6. Do you get the sense your feelings and boundaries don't matter much to him?
7. Does he seem too good to be true?
8. Has he been violent with you or another woman?
9. Does he insist you are sleeping with other men when you're not?
10. Have you never met any family member of his despite being involved with him for a significant period of time?

Yes, I realize abuse is a problem. And if you've heard my last controversial podcast, you may be aware that I have a lot of common sense views that most people don't consider.

And let's consider that these things are pretty obvious, for the most part.

But let's stop focusing on men as being the sole predatory animal on this planet and give us the 10 signs that your woman is a conniving, gold-digging, nagging, verbally abusive ...

Uh.... you get the picture. You won't be seeing that list anytime soon.

You won't see much media coverage of men doing good things for women, or that women do bad things to men.

How to spot a soul-sucking chick before she marries you and takes half in the divorce?

Hmm. Not there.

But we'll be inundated with ways for women to figure out how men are BAD in every which way imaginable.

That's the double standard we must learn to live with. Don't let it turn you into a supplicating effeminate metro-sexual.

Let it quicken you to be the man you MUST be to own your own slice of this world.

Don't give in. Get stronger.

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Tuesday, July 04, 2006

You're such a player....

I enjoy reading your email.  I have one question for you.  What do you tell a woman when she calls you a player?
Your Friend Robert.


Robert, this is an interesting situation. It’s more important to know WHY she’s asking it. She’s lacking TRUST, or has picked up some vibe about you that says you’re smooth (which is good.) But you need to work on Trust and rapport more.

I cover this specific situation and what to say depending on the situation in my new DVD set...

Have you seen it?

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Monday, July 03, 2006

This just in from the Ministry of Manhood...

This was sent to me by a loyal reader... Thought you'd enjoy it...

1: Under no circumstances may two men share an umbrella.

2: It is OK for a man to cry ONLY under the following circumstances:
 (a) When a heroic dog dies to save its master.
 (b) The moment Angelina Jolie starts unbuttoning her blouse.
 (c) After wrecking your boss's car.
 (d) One hour, 12 minutes, 37 seconds into "The Crying Game".
 (e) When she is using her teeth.

3: Any Man who brings a camera to a bachelor party may be legally killed and eaten by his buddies.

4: Unless he murdered someone in your family, you must bail a friend out of jail within 12 hours.

5: If you've known a guy for more than 24 hours, his sister is off limits forever unless you actually marry her.

6: Moaning about the brand of free beer in a buddy's fridge is forbidden. However complain at will if the temperature is unsuitable.

7: No man shall ever be required to buy a birthday present for another man. In fact, even remembering your buddy's birthday is strictly optional. At that point, you must celebrate at a strip bar of the birthday boy's choice.

8: On a road trip, the strongest bladder determines pit stops, not the weakest.

9: When stumbling upon other guys watching a sporting event, you may ask the score of the game in progress, but you may never ask who's playing.

10: You may flatulate in front of a woman only after you have brought her to climax. If you trap her head under the covers for the purpose of flatulent entertainment, she's officially your girlfriend.

11: It is permissible to drink a fruity alcohol drink only when you're sunning on a tropical beach... and it's delivered by a topless model and only when it's free.

12: Only in situations of moral and/or physical peril are you allowed to kick another guy in the nuts.

13: Unless you're in prison, never fight naked.
14: Friends don't let friends wear Speedos. Ever. Issue closed.
15: If a man's fly is down, that's his problem, you didn't see anything.
16: Women who claim they "love to watch sports" must be treated as spies until they demonstrate knowledge of the game and the ability to drink as much as the other sports watchers.
17: A man in the company of a hot, suggestively dressed woman must remain sober enough to fight.
18: Never hesitate to reach for the last beer or the last slice of pizza, but not both, that's just greedy.
19: If you compliment a guy on his six-pack, you'd better be talking about his choice of beer.
20: Never join your girlfriend or wife in discussing a friend of yours, except if she's withholding sex pending your response.
21: Phrases that may NOT be uttered to another man while lifting weights:
 a) Yeah, Baby, Push it!
 b) C'mon, give me one more! Harder!
 c) Another set and we can hit the showers!
22: Never talk to a man in a bathroom unless you are on equal footing: i.e., both urinating, both waiting in line, etc. For all other situations, an almost imperceptible nod is all the conversation you need.
23: Never allow a telephone conversation with a woman to go on longer than you are able to have sex with her. Keep a stopwatch by the phone. Hang up if necessary.
24: The morning after you and a girl who was formerly "just a friend" have carnal, drunken monkey sex, the fact that you're feeling weird and guilty is no reason for you not to nail each other again before the discussion occurs about what a big mistake it was.
25: It is acceptable for you to drive her car. It is not acceptable for her to drive yours.
26: Thou shalt not buy a car in the colors of brown, pink, lime green, orange or sky blue.
27: The girl who replies to the question "What do you want for Christmas?" with "If you loved me, you'd know what I want!" gets an Xbox360. End of story.
28: There is no reason for guys to watch Ice Skating or Men's Gymnastics. Ever. We've all heard about people having guts or balls. But do you really know the difference between them? In an effort to keep you informed, the definition of each is listed below:

 "GUTS" is arriving home late after a night out with the guys, being assaulted by your wife with a broom, and having the guts to say, "are you still cleaning or are you flying somewhere?"

"BALLS" is coming home late after a night out with the guys smelling of perfume and beer, lipstick on your collar, slapping your wife on the ass and having the balls to say, "You're next!"

We hope this clears up any confusion,

The International Council of Manhood, Ltd.

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Saturday, July 01, 2006

Another Alpha Man flies high...

Well, the Cliff's List conference here in Montreal is in full swing. Yesterday we were had presenters from all over the globe talking about every topic imaginable in this field. It's been a load of fun.. 12 hours each day... Yeah. You heard that right.

Hopefully I'll have a few pictures to post for you soon.

I just got this in from our magical pickup guy in the UK... Mike is not only a student but a practiced illusionist, performer, and Alpha Man. He sends in this review to all you guys that may not believe the power in the new Alpha Immersion DVD program.

Read on...

"Hey Carlos,

"I have been on numerous personal development programs over the years from Sales training, Voice coaching and UPW with Anthony Robbins (the Fire walk as well).  Your Alpha Immersion program ranks right up there with the best of them. 

"This program is very unique of its kind for a number of reasons.  Although this program focuses on the women and the dating "game", for me, the Alpha Immersion program is about men "reclaiming" their lost identity.  I have chosen my words very carefully because this program spoke to me and my "experiences" directly as I am sure it did for a lot of guys.

"There was one key moment in your presentation which forced me to pause the DVD just so that I could STOP and just evaluate the full impact of what you said: "Your true identity, is that of an Alpha Man but it is hidden beneath many layers of bad social programming."  In this one sentence, I saw my whole life's experiences with women and dating and how miserable felt with the whole process.  I haven't finished watching the whole DVD series, but I can say with absolute belief and certainty that I have received my money's worth just from the epiphany of your statement. 

"This DVD series along with your Secrets of The Alpha man is an invaluable tool for any guy out there who is "pissed off", "frustrated and ambitious" enough to take control of this latent power sleeping within.  I want to thank you for taking the time and care to share your expertise with us. 

"Your work is creating a global community men who will form the exclusive ten percent club.  This material is mind expanding, challenging, provocative but ultimately rewarding.  Any guy out there who is feeling restless with the quality of his life will find the missing links right here. 

"Thanks again,  Mike V, U.K."

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