Monday, November 13, 2006

Get more success with women by closing effectively...

Carlos, - I have a quick question for you - there is this girl I have met and like, and while at college, we get on really well, - she said to ring her at the weekend and see if she wanted to do anything, - so I did and got a lame excuse about her forgetting, and agreeing to meet a friend -

Now dont get me wrong, I get on with women well, abut the main problem I have is getting them to meet up outside of places like college & work and I have tried different approaches, so I was hoping you would have some fail-proof ways of getting them to want to.- any tips would be much appreciated. - cheers mate .

Michael, UK
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CARLOS:

I get a lot of emails from guys that want me to be clear that they are "doing just fine" with women, except for this ONE sticking point.

Well, assuming this is true, you have a situation that is not that hard to fix.

The first step is to STOP looking for foolproof solutions.

THERE ARE NONE!

Trust me, I've tried them ALL, and the one sure thing you have to realize is that there are no sure things.

Except one: If you're authentic and true to yourself, and if you act from a core of compassionate POWER (masculine, dominant, leader) you will have more overall success than you know what to do with.

So stop looking to avoid risk and the possibility of failure. Only losers spend all their energy trying to avoid the possibility of failing.

Read that last line again.

Next step: Start being more clear and assertive with women when you first meet them. This girl flaked on you like this because you didn't really cement in the good feeling and fun, and then you probably failed to start it back up when you talked on the phone.

Reasonably sane women will not refuse a date with someone they think is fun and cool.

You need to lock in a more vibrant air about you, and close her more definitely when you've got the good vibes going. Don't leave it so vague the next time. You need to make a statement that shows your interest in her at some point so she isn't left with an empty feeling of "failure to launch."

I hear some contradiction in your email that I want to point out. You say you "get on with women well," but you're not getting results. I suggest you re-evaluate your definition of "get on well." Perhaps you're getting good energy on the first meeting, but you're lacking in the ability to close successfully.

I'm not always so clear on the reality of the situations guys write in about because there are a lot of guys who delude themselves as to their real level of success with women. The reality is that most guys DO NOT get what they want from their interactions and relationships with women.

Shitty as that is, there is a cure for the common Single Guy. It's called EDUCATION.

If you could learn secrets to attract women, would you? Can you see past your ego defense mechanisms and embrace the power of the Alpha Man?

Find out how to close women right ... HERE.

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