Wednesday, October 18, 2006

Do you really want to take her out on a "dinner date"?

Hi Carlos,

Your newsletter is very informative, but I'd like to run a problem by you.

The advice given of not doing dinner on a 1st date is regularly given, but I get a problem with this when I suggest a drink or coffee meetup with a girl.

Simply put, from several women I get strong Indicators of Interest; both strong and repeated [indications of interest] over say four/five short conversations each lasting perhaps 5 minutes.

When I suggest a drink they look insulted or outraged and stalk off or go into a huff.

I am 40 years old, the women are between 20 and 22. Also I do have good looks. Is this combination of age difference and looks going to cause this? Is this combination going to force me to offer dinner or is there something I am missing?



Honestly, I think they're looking at you as a meal ticket, Big Daddy. You're picking the cheap, superficial gold diggers that want you only for the free dinners.

You're not really missing out on anything, if you get what I mean.

A woman that will only want to be with you because you're feeding her is what I call a "meal whore." You can do far better, J.

And it's not your suggestion, it's the context you're putting it in.

I find it hard to believe that they
give you this reaction. If any woman gave me that kind of reaction, I'd cut her down to size with some humorous teasing about her looking for free food. Guys often get tested like this (yes, it's probably a test to see if you're a suck-up that will give everything for once-a-month sex.)

Keep looking. And you should seriously consider going for chicks that are a few years older and don't still listen to Britney Spears. You'll be amazed at the difference in maturity and satisfaction you'll get from the upgrade.

Of course, not every guy knows how to approach women with the right attitude and the right words, so you should also consider looking at building your approach skills. Women often read a lot out of your appearance combined with your words combined with your body language, combined with your attitude.

If you want to learn how to take control of this and get attractive women without looking like a meal ticket, you should click here for the TRUTH about approaching women.

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