Tuesday, December 26, 2006

Alpha Man lessons from a student - Watch out for those who try to squash you!

I have been restarting the Alpha Man program and recently finished one of the exercises at the beginning concerning feeling subservient. One of the time I feel this way is when I am around this manipulative kid I fought and kicked his ass six years ago in high school. I still feel he holds this grudge against me for it, can you believe that? Six years!

Anyway, he is the type who can be a prick one minute and your best friend the next. He busts my balls when he's drunk, but I know for a fact there is more to it than meets the eye... like, that grudge.

So, in my exercise I wrote down that next time I would call him out on it in private. Last night, I did and was proud I did. But, he tried making this big deal of it, bringing our other friends into it, trying to make me look like the baby who can't take a joke. So, I ignored him the rest of the night and did my own thing.

I felt pretty good, but is this the type of change and reaction I should be experiencing from people as I re-become an Alpha Man? Honestly, I couldn't care any less if this guy ever talked to me again. Thoughts?


I once read a bumper sticker that had me nodding in silent agreement:

Those who have given up on their dreams will try their best to discourage you from your own.

Never have truer words been spoken.

Yes, your friends will resist the positive changes you're trying to make in your life. It's not necessarily out of malice or ill-will, but out of FEAR.

Fear that you're leaving them behind.

Fear that they will have to face their own stagnant lives.

Fear that they will be alone.

All of it is fear.

The best way to handle this when they try to belittle you or manipulate you is to:

1) Ignore them

If that fails,

2) Let them know you see exactly what they're trying to do.

"Hey, I understand that my assertiveness is threatening to you, and you may feel like you need to try to manipulate me into conforming to your standards. But I can't do that. I've got a mission in life, and I really can't go along on that trip. If you'd like to be cool and friendly, I'm all for it."

Then move along to the next conversational topic. Don't get mired in a debate or argument.

And if that fails...

It's time to let that 'friend' move on to people he can control and manipulate. Let him go hold someone else back from their dreams.

This kind of guy is a poison to the Alpha Man. He's a manipulative toady, and you can't fly like an eagle when you're tied to turkeys like this.

The challenge in your situation is to not immediately discard your friendship, but to see if you can turn it around first. If that doesn't work, then you have to get back to your Alpha path to success.

If you don't have your own Alpha Man path planned out, let me help you.

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