Tips To Get A Girlfriend

A lot of guys brag about wanting to be “players” and date as many women as they can fit into their lives. And that’s okay. There is definitely a time and place for that kind of dating. It’s exhilarating and fun and everyone should do that at some point in their dating life. But there usually (not always) comes a time when a guy would like to find one really cool, compatible woman to spend his time with on a consistent basis. When that happens, it might be hard sometimes to transition from a guy who is dating a million women, or even from a guy who is used to spending a lot of time at work or home and hasn’t had time to date or find a steady girl.

Here are some ideas that make that quest for a girlfriend a little smoother:

Tips To Get A Girlfriend:

1. Get off the couch. I know that seems a bit tongue-in-cheek, but the reality is you will never get a girlfriend sitting at home playing video games. You need to really make the effort to put yourself out there, if you want to meet the woman of your dreams.

That applies to guys who are workaholics and spend every minute they aren’t sleeping doing work.

It doesn’t matter who you are or what you’ve been doing up until now, if you want to get a girlfriend, you have to get out there around other people.

2. Expand your social network. Here’s how you get out there off the couch or out of the office. Start working on building your own social network. You can do this by joining clubs or participating in events, such as volunteering and so on. For instance, do you like chess? Find a chess club. Enjoy volleyball. Join a team. Like politics? Volunteer on a campaign. Find ways to pursue your hobbies and passions. Then bring different people from different areas of your life together. For instance, you might arrange to meet some coworkers at a blues club on Saturday, invite your volleyball teammates, as well. Tell them to bring their friends, too. Pretty soon, you are the center of a vibrant social network. These alone, increases your odds exponentially of meeting someone you will have something in common with.

3. Constantly work on self-improvement. That doesn’t mean focusing on it every minute of every day, but it means making some effort every day. That might mean maintaining your weight by your food choices. It might mean expanding your vocabulary by subscribing to a word of the day email.

4. Know your strengths and weakness. Sit down in a quiet spot and list your attributed and character defects. Look at yourself as a product you are selling to others. A lot of people do this and realize they don’t automatically know their own strengths. Know yourself enough to recognize your unique traits and characteristics and how these are something, you have to offer another person in a relationship. Don’t pay a ton of attention to your weaknesses, unless you recognize these are detracting from your ability to either meet a woman or maintain a relationship. If that is the case, make a game plan to conquer or change them.

5. Make a list of what you want in a woman and what you don’t want.

Really, think about the most important traits you need in a girlfriend and the characteristics that you don’t want. For instance, you might say loyalty is the most important quality, even more important than good looks. Or you might say, that no matter how well you fit together in every other area, if you can’t trust a woman, it won’t work.

That way when you meet women, you will know whether they are worth your time and energy or whether there are some obvious traits that are deal breakers. These are some tips to get a girlfriend.

Approaching Women

Sometimes it helps to have a road map to guide your way when you are approaching women and hoping to leave the encounter with a phone number or date.

There are more ways to meet women than fish in the ocean, but let’s look at the most effective ways to meet the kind of women you wan tin your life: Women who are authentic, who aren’t flaky and who will add quality to your life.

Below is a great method in approaching women that you can use during the day, anywhere and everywhere. It’s great to have this road map in your back pocket because you never know when you will encounter a woman who sparks your interest.

If you memorize this road map in approaching women, you can avoid being tongue tied or uncertain when you spot her across the subway car or stand behind her in line at the coffee shop. Or, as this road map directs, you can also maximize your chances of success by where you go to meet women.

Here is your road map for approaching women effectively:

1. Location, location, location. Look around your neighborhood or the areas of the city you frequent, such as near your work. Notice which places tend to have the most number of women in them. For instance, is it the mall? The grocery store near your college? The coffee shop or the bookstore?

2. Practice talking to strangers. Ask random people at that location for directions. Start learning how to strike up a conversation and engage everyone you can. Once this feels natural, it will be easy to do so with that strikingly beautiful woman you just saw.

3. When you see that woman, or any other woman you think you’d like to meet, walk over with a friendly smile on your face.

4. Ask her for directions to somewhere you know is nearby. Follow that with a question that ties into the place you are headed. For instance, if you ask directions to a bookstore, then follow up by saying this: “Great. Thanks. By the way, I notice you are carrying a bunch of books. Can you recommend a good book for my little sister? She’s turning 19.”

5. Pay attention to her body language. If she seems antsy, stop there and move on. If she has open, patient body language and seems friendly, then continue the conversation. Ask her something to do with relationships.

For instance, you might say, “I saw online this morning that (whatever relationship issue you read, but probably avoid ones about approaching a girl) and wondered if other people thought that was off base, too?”

(Or some other variation of this. You might ask advice for a friend, for example.)

6. If she’s sitting down, sit down beside her. Start by saying you can only stay a minute because you are meeting a friend in a few minutes. Ask her name, but don’t offer yours. Don’t ask boring, inane questions, such as what she does for a living or where’s she from. Learn how to ask open-ended questions that someone can’t respond to with a simple yes or no. This is good conversational technique to know.

7. Tease her so you create a connection. Make sure it is gentle teasing with a smile on your face to show you are kidding. Keep the conversation topics light hearted.

8. Talk about your favorite places in the city, such as a bar or club and say why you like it there. Then, offhandedly mention, “You’d probably love it. We should go next week.” Hand her your phone and say, “Put your number in.”

That’s it.

During any of these steps if you encounter natural resistance, break them down. If you can’t do that, time to move on. There are a lot of other fish in the sea. Don’t forget that when it comes to approaching women, practice makes perfect. So, get out there today and give it a shot.