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Every
man is self-made, but only the SUCCESSFUL men admit it.
Monday, 4:07 AM: Carlos Xuma's Front
Porch...
The world can bid farewell to the
original Alpha Man ... at least in
my world.
My father passed away this weekend at the age of 67. I always thought
he had a few more years of piss and vinegar in him, but there's no arguing
with Fate when he comes knocking at your door.
We didn't always get along so well, but he never
wussed out in his life.
And for that, I'm thankful.
The strangest thing was that we spoke on Thursday
and he was gone on Friday.
It happens THAT quick, my brothers. Life will not
wait for you - you must go seize the life you want.
If you get a chance, light a candle for the original Man that taught
me everything I knew about being Alpha...
Thanks to all the guys who wrote in to wish their
condolences on my father's passing. I appreciate your sentiments. I know
he would have, too.
For those of you who are not aware, Monday is our
Tele-seminar on Communication with myself and Scot McKay, and you can
still submit questions for this call at:
http://instantteleseminar.com/?eventid=303375
Scot and I hope to hear you on the call ...
Now, on to this week's newsletter:
QUESTION: Short
question ...
What does it mean that when a girl says that guy that
she doesn't know, she has a crush on them, but guys that she does know, she
likes them as friends...?
CARLOS XUMA'S ADVICE:
It means there's more here to look at. You're looking
at the situation from too high a level. This is a bit too general.
There are lots of situations with women that do
not "mean" anything
in and of themselves. It's PATTERNS that you should watch for. Sometimes a
woman just likes the fantasy of a man better than the reality. (I'd bet any
money that this girl is younger than 22.)
The phenomenon you're speaking of, however, does have some basis in the fact
that women stay friends with guys they're not going
to sleep with (for a variety
of reasons which I've discussed before), and they invent
romantic scenarios and superficial emotions for men they don't know.
It's up until she's actually met a guy that she
can invent whatever fantasy she wants about him that leads to her having
a "crush" on him.
But when she finally meets him or gets to know him, what typically happens?
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90% of guys will mess it up by:
- - Being too socially clueless
- - Being too needy
- - Being too obnoxious/arrgant
- - Etc.
And it's usually at this point that she can safely
take him out of fantasy mode and into reality mode... tossing him in the "Friends Only" bucket.
Obviously some guys do manage to avoid this trap and will
get somewhere with her.
How do they do it?
In order to avoid this fate learn
how to be an Alpha Man
QUESTION: What
does he have that you don't ...?
Carlos,
Not to beat a dead horse or anything, but I gotta tell you about my roommate
because I want to understand more about what he is doing and how he is doing
it.
First off, he's a great guy and one of my best friends here at school. He's
got my back to the very end and I don't doubt it for a second.
But, everywhere we go... and I mean EVERYWHERE, girls flock to him... literally.
We'll be on the street, hot girls just stare at him. We'll be at a party or
a bar, hot girls approach him, now imagine that! I think you know where I'm
going with this. He is a good looking guy and all, but it's got to be something
more than just that.
Bottom line is I WANT HIS RESULTS! And, I want to know how he achieves them.
Advice?
CARLOS XUMA'S ADVICE:
Yeah, don't we all.
When we see a 'natural' - a guy who is naturally
attractive to women - we
sometimes fall into the mistaken belief that he's got something magical -
an ability that must surely make him a holy being. (Yeah, I'm exaggerating,
but not far from what you're thinking in your head.)
Again, it's a comparison trap that you can fall into when you look at another
person and want THEIR results.
You CAN'T have his results specifically. It's chasing something you can't
control right now, and it will actually lower your ability.
The guys that WANT to have a certain result, like a specific football player's
ability, or a politician's social skill, rarely accomplish it. The ones that
get the result are the ones who focus SPECIFICALLY on THEIR
OWN development
and growth. Because that's where it all starts.
I don't want to get too caught up in the mechanics, because the
mindset is 10 times as important. If you're chasing another
person's results, even if
you think that's what you want for yourself, you're going to hurt
your game,
because you'll always have a standard set that is not your identity, and it
undermines your sense of self worth at that moment because you're not achieving
it.
Even if you want to use him as some kind of benchmark of your own performance,
it will not help.
So you want to know what his attraction
secret is?
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Here it is:
1) He's
physically attractive, so he's got a flashy lure. Women will be drawn
in by the appearance. This is good only for about 30
seconds, while she waits
to hear what comes out of your mouth.
2) He's
got a good image. I'll bet he's got a style of appearance (clothes,
hair, etc.) that makes him look good.
3) He's
got a charismatic attitude. He's persuasive, and he can communicate
well.
4) He's not giving off subtle pings of insecurity and instability with his
mannerisms, speech, and body language.
5) He's
not focused on being like or doing as well as anyone else. He's
surrendered to the present moment and accepted things RIGHT NOW.
As they are, good, bad, or indifferent. I can bet you that he isn't focused
on his own performance.
I guarantee you that anyone that's good
with women and confident with women has learned these strategies and has given up the need to compare on any level.
You can only sell your product when you're convinced of its value. You don't
see anyone selling their goods or services while dumbstruck in awe over their
competitors, do you?
This is the essence of Charisma.
And the secrets of compelling communication
and persuasion are easy to learn.
Most guys don't approach women because they haven't got
the SKILLS to APPROACH
WOMEN. Once you have them, you'll feel less anxious and you'll actually DO
IT.
Discover the secret methods to approach women with no fear of rejection.
Get to the point where you understand everything I said there, not just at
a LOGICAL level but at an EMOTIONAL level. Where it hits you in the gut and
makes you pace your apartment in utter revelatory disbelief. When it does
hit, you'll be changed for good. And for the better.
It's easy to look at the other guys out there who
can just walk up and talk to women with no problem as somehow "gifted." They
seem almost granted a mystical power that the ordinary guy can't relate
to.
How do they DO it?
It's not magic, or a special power. In fact, once you understand
the workings of women enough, it's really pretty simple. You'll
wonder why in the world you were so intimidated, and why it seemed like
a mystery.
Wouldn't it be great to understand what's going
on so that - at the very LEAST - you could avoid feeling "played" or
manipulated in the future...?
That's exactly what my e-books will teach you. Not
only do you learn what the subtle psychological aspects are, but how you
can amplify these "Alpha
Man" traits so that you are able to draw in the women that you want.
The only magic you have to add to this equation is the attitude to take
action.
Every guy that uses the techniques and strategies I teach
is more
successful than they were before, and most of them become MASSIVELY successful.
Which leads me to this: You know that women are getting more and more picky
about men, and they can sniff out inferior guys with just a whiff of your
confidence. And to stand out you MUST have the edge on the other guys out
there. You need to be a REAL MAN, not this sissie-fied cartoon man that the
media and evening television sells you.
My e-book gives you the information and skills to get the women YOU want.
Not SETTLE FOR.
You've GOT to be an Alpha Man.
Look, there are so many things you have to have down pat in the singles world.
Like, how do you NOT screw it up in those vital first couple minutes of meeting
a woman?
You've heard me say this before: Getting
laid is not about getting "lucky."
It's about having the right knowledge
and understanding up front. Women are
actually WAITING for men to date and sleep with, if you'll just give them
the right reasons WHY they should be with YOU. It's deliberate and on-purpose,
not subject to the whims of chance and fate.
BE the kind of man they are waiting for. That's all they ask of you.
I've worked for years to break down what it is that
women are trying to tell you with their behavior, and finding out the hard
way why being a "nice
guy" is dooming you to failure.
You have to get this knowledge and
understanding, or you may risk never being
able to turn your game around.
When you have that knowledge, you can make better choices and demonstrate
better behaviors.
When you demonstrate better behavior, you will get better RESULTS.
It's all about your inner game...
What
is Inner Game?
It's your confidence. It's your attitude. You know when
a person has this it
oozes from them and gives them a comfortable vibe.
The reality is that True success with
women requires a firm
sense of direction in life, and self-confidence.
But you hear that all the time, don't you?
"Just be confident."
You'll hear that nugget of advice from a lot of
guys out there, but the difference is that they'll say "be confident," and
not give you ONE single method of actually improving
your confidence.
That's where I will help you.
I spent years trying out various self-help programs, studying
my own inner psychology (and inner wuss, too.) I figured out which things
make a difference and ...
... I have a plan to help
you improve your inner AND outer game with women.
When a woman senses that you've got passions and direction
in your life - even if that passion is to improve to be more attractive
to women - then
they'll want to come along for the ride.
I saw it over and over again as I went down this road.
Now, I also mapped this development, and I want you to benefit from my
experience.
There's no reason you should have to take as long as I did to make these changes
to your own life.
A Woman isn't looking for
a MAN - She's looking for a "Situation..."
For those of you out there reading this right now
that aren't sure how to calibrate to the "Alpha
Man" ideal, I have
something for you that you will find LIFE-CHANGING.
Click here
right now to find out what I'm talking about, or just read on...
A lot of the situations
guys write in about are a bit unclear because many guys delude themselves
as to their real level of success with
women. The reality is that most guys DO
NOT get what they
want from their interactions and relationships with women.
Crappy as that is, there is a cure for the common Lonely
Single Guy.
It's called EDUCATION.
It's the only way to stop being a whipped,
scared, beta guy and get your love life under your control again.
If you could learn secrets to attract
women, would you?
Can you see past
your ego defense mechanisms and embrace the power of the Alpha Man?
When you have enough women and action in your life, you
won't feel like you need to analyze or chase every chick that comes into your
sphere of influence. And that's a good thing. You'll act on it because
you've got a sense
of abundance in your life.
If you'd like to create your plan for making your life what you want, develop
confidence, attract women, accumulate wealth, find happiness...
I know there are some guys who won't understand how these concepts go together,
but all success in life is linked together by some common
principles.
If you're not getting what you want from life, you need to make some changes.
Stop putting your destiny off until some other 'convenient'
time...
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Listen
to what the other gurus are saying about Carlos' work...
"I've read every book and studied every system on dating and seduction.
The problem with most 'gurus' in this field is that they're not teaching
men how to build a solid foundation. Until you change your internal
belief system and adopt an Alpha mindset, all the tactics and techniques
in the world aren't going to do you any good. (Actually, it's like
learning just enough karate to get your ass kicked!) Carlos
Xuma is the best there is at teaching men how to develop their 'inner
game.' From there, he'll give you the complete set of tools for approaching
women, and life, with absolute confidence and skill. If you're in
this game to win it, these are the rules you
need to learn."
- "Supreme", M.A.C.K. Tactics co-creator
"Carlos Xuma is a man who has a clear passion for imparting the success
with women he has experienced to other guys worldwide. He approaches his
craft with immense integrity and a distinct style!"
- Scot McKay, X & Y
Communications, DeserveWhatYouWant.com
"Carlos Xuma is the REAL DEAL! If you are serious about
creating an extraordinary relationship. You will learn more about the
needs and desires of women than they do themselves! I highly recommend
Carlos to any man who is ready to get the woman of his dreams.
I love his game, its 100% real."
- the dean, Dating4Men.com
"Carlos Xuma is one of those rare guys in the field who actually GETS
what interacting with women is all about. His advice goes beyond
the pick-up lines and approach techniques that so many guys use
and fail with. Rather, Carlos gives guys everywhere practical, valuable
advice that will make men attractive not just for one night, but for many,
many years. He lays down the foundation for becoming a NATURALLY attractive
man, full of confidence and the ability to fully ENJOY being around hot
babes.
Unlike other pickup artists, Carlos shares information that helps you
not only in one area of life, but in many: in social relationships, at
work, sports, with personal goals. He'll help make you a well-rounded,
self-believing alpha MAN who's capable of just about anything.
And seducing gorgeous, high-quality women, is just the beginning."
- James Brito, How
to Be Irresistible to Women
"Carlos Xuma is one of the few men in the 'seduction' or 'attraction'
community who digs beneath the surface of passing attraction,
and Explores what it is to be a man who attracts women by virtue of his
character and, consequently, the natural outward expression of high character.
He brings words like 'discipline' and 'integrity' to
the forefront, and waddya know, those are exactly the qualities women
truly crave in a man."
- Grant Adams, CEO
- net2bed.com
"Hey Carlos, I write about the biology of men and women's behavior.
You seem to know the biology of behavior without knowing it. How
do you do that? You have a deep intuition of dynamics -
it took me 7 years of academic research to discover. And you find
sharp ways to apply it practically... Keep up the good work, brother."
- Joe Quirk, Author
of "Sperm are from Men, Eggs are from Women"
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Remember Carlos
Xuma's Rule:
"NO WOMAN has the self-control to STOP pursuing that
which she TRULY desires..."
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Prove it to yourself - If you want to hear all the great
things everyone has to say about these books, go to the site and read the
reviews. And then download them now to see why more men get success with
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Listen to what this guy says about his experience
learning the Truth:
"I have purchased your Dating
Black Book and Approach
Women Now CD series. I have to tell you that after
reading the book and listening to the CDs I could help but feel
like the dorkiest man alive. I have let woman control my emotions
and have responded to them instead of them responding to me.
I always came off as a needy unconfident pervert!
"... I have learned to set standards and
not let a woman test me without busting their balls. I hope that if
I keep this up I will eventually find a woman that qualifies to be
in my life.
"One big thing too, if a woman sees that
I have things going on in my life, they tend to be more interested
instead of the bore I used to be. I have the motivation now to follow
my dreams and if a woman wants to be part of that then so be it, but
I have learned not to let a woman pull me off course of where I want
to go and do in my life..."
"Hey carlos, thank you for the Secrets
of the Alpha Man course. I think I must've listened to the
CDs four or five times now !
"The confidence I've gained in meeting
da ladeez at work and socially has been tremendous. I was never
skeptical at your
program, but was interested/concerned as how I would notice
the changes in myself. The clincher was when several of my closest
friends ... pointed out to me that I had confidence in so many ways!
"Thank you so much for your hard work for
making it easier for the rest of us!"
- Richie from UK
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"The difference between
great people and everyone else is that great people create their lives
actively, while everyone else is created by their lives, passively
waiting to see where life takes them next."
- Michael E. Gerber
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