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These are the secrets of how to meet women
and what women want that you won't learn from a "pickup artist..."


Wednesday: 12:43 AM

So How In The World Were These Other Guys Doing It?

Lesson 1: Attraction is Not Something You're Taught.

Lesson 2: Attraction Can't Be FORCED.

FAST SUCCESS TIP #1: "Tease to Please"

I call this technique "Tease to Please", and it works because it short-circuits a woman's usual defense mechanisms against meeting 'strange' men. You see, every woman comes with her factory-installed defensive shields against meeting new men or letting them into her life.

When a guy approaches her, for any reason, the woman assumes you're picking up on her. It's what she's gotten used to. All women are by now, and they all have a standard routine they use of being a little stand-offish to you until you can bust past this barrier.

Instead of complimenting a woman when you first meet her, take the opportunity to gently tease her.

Don't make it cruel, but tease like you would on the playground as a kid: "You're not bad looking ... you don't have cooties, do you? I don't want to catch anything from you."

By using the Dating Dynamics methods, you will flip her Trust switch in her head. You see, she starts out needing to find a reason to be interested and trust YOU - or she quickly categorizes you as a friend.


Translation: “Friend” = non-lover, a man she won’t sleep with.
Don't go there.

If you just start talking to her neutrally, she's wondering, "Is he safe? Is he normal?" For all she knows, you're just another dweeb looking to bore her with old Playboy party jokes.

Now, by teasing her first, all of a sudden she feels (from your words and actions) that you might be more challenging. You're different - i.e., interesting to her. Maybe you’re not just another guy out there looking to get laid tonight.

Just find one thing about her that you can tease her about as an introduction. Don't make it cruel, but make it clear that you're not intimidated by her beauty. Make it playful and fun. If you're reading her body language well enough, you'll be able to take this as far as you want.

IMPORTANT NOTE: Most guys will be afraid of making a woman mad, and will fear using this tactic, even though it makes complete sense to women and it will work like crazy on them.

If you play it her way, you're going to have to spend weeks and weeks, dates and more dates, money and more money, on a woman just to get her to open up and believe you're a good guy.


Do you ever feel like attraction between you and a woman is like some kind of magic 'trick'...?

And that it's something cool that you can see other guys do, but you'll never really "get it"?

FAST SUCCESS TIP #2: "Conversation Jump-Start"

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