QUESTION:

Hi,

I’m writing to you from Stockholm, Sweden after reading your Alpha Male ebook. First of I must say thank you for getting me back on track! I’ve been in a slump for the past 10 months or so. Depending on a lot of things, work, relationships, kids and you name it. During this period, untill now, I’ve been a typical Beta Guy… Which I’m not at all usually.

The problem is that the core problem for me has been a relationship problem that really cost me both emotional as well as economy downfall. I don’t really now what started the process, but it doesn’t matter anymore. For now I’m gonna work it out to my liking!

I just have a question for you, and I hope you can give me an honest answer!? If you have had a relationship that ended much depending on you becoming a beta guy from your original alpha man is there any possibilities to mend that relation again by becoming, once again, the mn you used to be? Even if the woman left you and said it was no chance to ever go on, and she has closed her door to her old life and getting new friends and maybe even a new boyfriend, don’t really know about that one tough.

I believe it’s possible. If she once fell for you it must be possible to make her fall again, even if it takes a while. I don’t like to lose in anything, maybe that’s why I can’t let her go and stop thinking about her.

Any input would be appreciated and please don’t just tell me to buy this or that ebook.

Thanks in advance,

 

M

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 Carlos Xuma Answers:

Well, I’m not going to tell you to buy my book if you already have it, dude. I just get a ton of questions from guys who won’t make an investment to improve themselves. They’re not really interested in growing, just finding the quickest fix, which is the quickest way to failure.

And you can tell that they’re just fishing around, not focused on really developing their skill with women.

You, on the other hand, DID invest in my program and you know that they make a difference, and for that I’ll give you some answers…

You can make a woman interested again, but the effort you end up putting into it is too much and misdirected.

For 1/10th the energy you could start a new relationship with someone, and start it on the right terms. If you go back to this girl, even if you manage to get her back, you’ll already be one-step down. In her mind, she’s established you as not being Alpha, and she’ll forever suspect that your “change” is just an act. After all, she’s seen what she thinks is the “real” you.

Men don’t like to lose things, especially women. But the single best thing you can do for your attitude and Alpha Status is to meet enough NEW women that you overcome this obsession with her.

Remember that the pain will be with you for a while, and you’ll think that the way to alleviate the pain is to go back and fix what you messed up.

The more you work on this one that got away, the more of a toll you take on your self-esteem and confidence. It hurts you so much more to go for the win-back. For every attempt you make that doesn’t work with her, you’ll lose 10 points of esteem. For every new woman you meet and get with, you’ll gain 20 points. And that will make her that much less important to you.

Ironically , the only thing you can do is to work your way through the pain, inch by inch. Step by step.

Don’t live life in your rear-view mirror… You’ll miss what’s ahead of you…

And that’s as honest as I can be.

 

Stay Alpha,

– Carlos Xuma