NEWSLETTER:
Don't Be Alone for New Years...!
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Carlos Xuma and the TRUTH About Dating and
Attraction...
Because every
man is self-made, but only the SUCCESSFUL admit it.
Hey! It's Carlos here...
It's less
than 1 week to Christmas!
I realize a lot of guys out there don't necessarily
have the women in their lives that they want right now. Some don't even have
any prospects.
I hope that's not the case for you. I hope you have someone
special that you can share the joys of holidays with - not just these holidays,
but any holiday.
But if you don't have a woman - steady girlfriend or otherwise
- I can help you.
I know that if you've
been reading my newsletters for any time now, you know that I give guys the
straight TRUTH on dating and building
attraction with women.
You CAN have a woman in your life this holiday season.
In fact, it's one of the best times to find someone because there are women
out in record numbers. Everywhere.
They're shopping, they're at Holiday parties, they're
out with friends, they're partying in the New Year...
You just need to find them and use my
techniques and strategies to win their hearts. And all it requires
is to take the first step.
If you've been wondering for a while how to do this, go
look at this program. It will tell you all you need to know.
And then come back here to read the newsletter.
By the way, if you know of someone that could use my information
to make a difference in their lives, my
programs make great holiday gifts to friends, too.
Now let's get to the questions in this week's newsletter...
- Carlos Xuma
QUESTION: What
do you do if you're overweight ...?
Hey Carlos, for a year I've been following your podcast and my friend even
gave me the Secrets of the Alpha Man for my birthday last year. My interaction
with females have gotten better I'm not buying drinks anymore. And I realize
I'm enough and I dont have to buy a womans time.
However I'm overweight and I think that's the only thing holding me back..
Should I just push this training and women to the side and wait 'til I have
lost weight and just dedicate a year to fixing that? I damn near wanted to
give up last night.
Need advice...
CARLOS ANSWERS:
Great question!
Actually, I think putting any part of your life "on hold" implies
that you are giving yourself an excuse to neglect a part of your life. This
is based on the mistaken assumption that if we focus ALL our efforts on one
area, we'll somehow get much better results.
This isn't quite true.
What happens is that we often burn ourselves out on that one thing rather
than maintaining a healthy balance for all areas of our life.
What you stand to lose in "giving up" for
a year to accomplish this goal (which you may never meet if you don't qualify,
by the way), is that you'll lose your social edge.
Learning how to interact with women is a FULL-TIME, 'round the clock activity.
You do it all the time because that's your IDENTITY.
Right now you're reacting from a feeling of discouragement
rather than anything else.
Rule Number 1 for Alpha
Men: Never make an emotionally motivated decision.
Stay out there, and stay in the mix. There are PLENTY of big guys that have
fantastic success with women. It's all a matter of self-image. If YOU are
OK with it, she will be, too.
Continued ...
There are a lot of women who love big Teddy Bear guys,
and that's the way you should play it. A big guy has to lose the aggro edge
and be an affable, friendly guy.
The only thing that's holding you back is your
thinking.
So take control of it!
Re-read the section on page
75 of the Secrets
of the Alpha Man e-book and study guide where I cover overcoming
limitations. Pay particular attention to what I say about your "physique."
But also read the next section on Self Confidence.
Get your copy of the Secrets
of the Alpha Man program here... You can download
the e-book right now.
Teddy
Shabba of Dating Advice Coach Reviews The
Dating Black Book:
"Too many books dealing
with meeting and dating women focus on techniques instead of the basic
fundamentals of what actually attracts women to men.
In fact this is the main reason why so many nice guys have problems
actually getting any further than the first few dates with women and
that's if they find the courage to actually use the techniques on women.
However, Carlos Xuma in his book The
Dating Black Book shows men the
basic fundamentals of attracting and being successful with women.
The
Dating Black Book starts off explaining the importance of actually
improving yourself and building self confidence to attract women.
If you are looking for a sugar coated version of what it is going to
take then this is Not the book for you.
After covering the different aspects of your inner game as well as
how to build your self confidence, Carlos moves on to actually show
you how to find a girlfriend or women for a long-term relationship.
Many times men have a tendency to get comfortable with a woman quite
early and end up in a relationship they do not want and do not know
how to get out of.
The
Dating Black Book helps you understand what to look for in a good
woman and what to watch out for in a Not so good woman.
To finish off the book, Carlos quickly covers the
basics on sex as well as some additional resources for men to read that
will help improve a man's life in general.
Overall, if you have ever read anything that Carlos
Xuma has written on dating and women then you already know that he has
a lot of very useful information and knowledge to give men, and The
Dating Black Book will help you get even more of that information
and knowledge.
I would highly recommend this book to the majority if not all Nice
Guys or Recovering Nice Guys out there who are struggling with some
of the concepts and techniques that other guys teach.
If you want to just be yourself and attract women
then The Dating
Black Book by Carlos Xuma is for you..."
- Teddy Shabba - Dating Advice Coach.com
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QUESTION: How
Do You Tease a Woman ...?
Hey Carlos,
... just got the Dating
Black Book..good stuff..I have been trying lots of
your stuff out and it really is working. For Example...Less is more. Don't
hang around the women too much it is better to be off doing your own thing..This
works!!! Also, the cell phone stuff... This works great..
To "Tease to please"..This has been hard for me..
I was
at a party over the weekend and I really needed to bust this girls chops.
I kept looking for an opening but could not find one. The girls has to screw
up so you can bust her balls...Well...she never did in front of me..between
my cruising around the party and coming back talking a little then off I go..cruising
around..and coming back..I was just locked in frustration...
The date before this one I was busting her balls and it
was working great... but I nailed her everytime she messed something up...I
am looking for ways to start this.. I have this mental block..like I cannot
do it..but I know I can..I just need some practice or something to get me
started or some examples. I have not found too many examples... I just need
to find the rhythm.
Thanks for your great work.
C
CARLOS ANSWERS:
These examples come from real life. You just need to make an exercise of
finding a way to tease people based on ANYTHING at all.
You don't need to wait for a woman to make a mistake to
tease her. You have every right to tease her for just being a woman. Playfully,
of course.
It's really not very hard to engineer a tease. All you
need to do is think about how you used to behave on the playground as a kid.
You don't need to wait for a "screw up" -
you just have to make your opportunity.
If she's standing there waiting for her drink, you
can look at her and say, "Don't
tell me, Vodka martini, shaken not stirred. Or the other way around when you're
feeling moody."
Or perhaps she mentions something about her niece while
you're talking to her:
You say: "Okay, c'mon. Let me see it."
She'll say: "What?"
You say: "The picture of your niece you carry
with you. I know it's in your purse somewhere..."
The best way to learn how to tease is to watch a lot of
movies that have good Alpha
Role models. Guys like Mel Gibson in the early Lethal Weapon movies, or
the dry quips of Carey Grant in any of his movies.
(FYI: I include a list of the top 100 Alpha Movies of
all time in the Alpha
Immersion program...)
Continued
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Teasing is simply finding something about them that you can put in a humbling/human
perspective.
Not to humiliate or make a person feel bad, but to give them a new way of
looking at things that gets rid of pretense.
"You're going to University of Washington?
Oh, boy. You're one of THOSE girls..."
"If you liked THAT movie, I bet you also like
those goofy scary movie comedies, too..."
"If you drink that water any slower, it's going
to evaporate before you're done..."
A poke in the ribs and a smile. The recipe to a great energizing interaction.
If you want real life verbal examples of this, you need my Approach
Women NOW program, with various examples of how to keep the banter going in conversations.
For those of you out there reading this right now
that aren't good at calibrating to this "Alpha
Man" ideal, I have
something that you will find LIFE-CHANGING.
You don't have to go to one of my bootcamps.
You can simply get my home-study
course of the same Alpha
Immersion program I use to train my students (and instructors) in the
field.
It's my
latest DVD program, and I just got some new stock of them in the warehouse
this week.
Again, the reality is that if you're only reading the
newsletters or listening to my podcast, you need more. It's like meeting up
with a group of people who just attended a seminar. You can sort
of understand
what they're discussing - BUT you don't have the same foundation they have
from attending.
Take a look at the Alpha
Man Immersion Program HERE.
There's an old saying: Everybody wants to get into heaven,
but nobody wants to die.
A lot of the situations
guys write in about are a bit unclear because many guys delude themselves
as to their real level of success with
women. The reality is that most guys DO
NOT get what they
want from their interactions and relationships with women.
Shitty as that is, there is a cure for the common Lonely
Single Guy.
It's called EDUCATION.
It's the only way to stop being a whipped,
scared, beta guy and get your love life under your control again.
If you could learn secrets to attract
women, would you?
Can you see past
your ego defense mechanisms and embrace the power of the Alpha Man?
When you have enough women and action in your life, you
won't feel like you need to analyze or chase every chick that comes into your
sphere of influence. And that's a good thing. You'll act on it because
you've got a sense
of abundance in your life.
If you'd like to create your plan for making your life what you want, develop
confidence, attract women, accumulate wealth, find happiness...
Click here to read about the Alpha
Man Immersion program.
I know there are some guys who won't understand how these concepts go together,
but all success in life is linked together by some common
principles.
If you're not getting what you want from life, you need to make some changes.
Stop putting your destiny off until some other 'convenient'
time...
Discover your inner Alpha
Man now... Click HERE
Learn more about R.E.A.L.
Game (TM) and the successful attitudes of an Alpha Man:
Take a look at the original program that will put you on the path - Alpha
Immersion.
This is the ORIGINAL Alpha
Man program that gives you the REAL Game with
women.
Prove it to yourself - If you want to hear all the great
things everyone has to say about these books, go to the site and read the
reviews.
And then download them now to see why more men get success with my
advice and strategies ...
CLICK
HERE TO LEARN MORE...
"Carlos, my man!
I can't thank you enough for the valuable information you have shared
with me and how open my eyes have become to the tests and challenges
that women have put on me all my life.
"I would have to
say that your Alpha
Man Program is one of the
best solutions to getting this part of your life in order, as well
as, getting you where you want to be mentally to attract more of the
caliber women we all want in our lives. I hope we have a lasting relationship
in the form of mental growth for many years to come and thanks again
buddy..."
- Javier
"Hey carlos, thank
you for the Secrets
of the Alpha Man course.
I think I must've listened to the cd's four or five times now !
"The
confidence I've gained in meeting da ladeez at work and socially has
been tremendous. I was never skeptical at your
program, but was interested/concerned
as how I would notice the changes in myself. The clincher was when
several of my closest friends ... pointed out to me that I had confidence
in so many ways!
"Thank you so much
for your hard work for making it easier for the rest of us !"
- Richie from UK
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"The difference between
great people and everyone else is that great people create their lives
actively, while everyone else is created by their lives, passively
waiting to see where life takes them next."
- Michael E. Gerber
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