NEWSLETTER:
Don't Be Alone This Holiday Season...!
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Carlos Xuma and the TRUTH About Dating and
Attraction...
Because every
man is self-made, but only the SUCCESSFUL admit it.
Hey! It's Carlos here...
I was looking at my calendar and thinking that it's less
than 2 weeks to Christmas. I know a lot of guys out there don't necessarily
have the women in their lives that they want right now. Some don't even have
any prospects.
I hope that's not the case for you. I hope you have someone
special that you can share the joys of holidays with - not just these holidays,
but any holiday.
But if you don't have a woman - steady girlfriend or otherwise
- I can help you.
I know that if you've
been reading my newsletters for any time now, you know that I give guys the
straight TRUTH on dating and building
attraction with women.
You CAN have a woman in your life this holiday season.
In fact, it's one of the best times to find someone because there are women
out in record numbers. Everywhere.
They're shopping, they're at Holiday parties, they're
out with friends...
You just need to find them and use my
techniques and strategies to win their hearts. And all it takes
is to take the first step.
If you've been wondering for a while how to do this, go
look at this program. It will tell you all you need to know.
And then come back here to read the newsletter.
By the way, if you know of someone that could use my information
to make a difference in their lives, my
programs make great holiday gifts to friends, too.
Now let's get to the questions in this week's newsletter...
- Carlos Xuma
QUESTION: Success
story, and a quesiton about handling Beta chump friends...
Carlos, I come bringing good news!
It may have taken me awhile ... for your
stuff to really sink in but I have to tell you I am seeing good results now.
I'm at the point now where girls are asking ME out and I'm all the one doing
the choosing on if we get a 2nd date or not. I was on the other side of the
fence for awhile and it wasn't fun always seeking a womens approval by kissing
up to her. I'm glad those days are over.
I had a date yesterday with a girl who wanted to
take me horse riding and noticed that I was in complete control of the situation
by being confident, not caring what happened and not going in with a planned
agenda, and laying on the [teasing] for spice. She was starting to seek
MY approval and if I let the date carry on anymore chances are I could of
had sex with her (She was dropping some pretty BIG hints).
Your teachings/advice gave me a new perspective of things
as well. Im no longer one of those guys who desperately seek to get into any
decent looking girls pants. I'm now the supply rather then the demand. So
I'm not going to have sex with just anyone. The girl I went horse riding with
was damaged goods and had a few issues I didn't want to put up with. She was
good looking but any Alpha
Man sets his sights a little bit higher then just a pretty face.
My success story comes with a question: Now that I'm in control of my dating
situation and I set my bar a little heigher then most guys a small handfull
of beta's have actually called me a wuss for not wanting to get into the pants
of every good looking girl I meet.
How would you react to this if it happened to you?
CARLOS ANSWERS:
YES! This is what it means to persevere and get the results.
It's not just about attracting and dating women,
as you're finding out. Being an Alpha
Man is about creating a successful LIFESTYLE that
starts you thinking bigger and achieving more.
In fact, I frequently find that most of the guys who get
involved with understanding how to attract women ultimately discover that
this is only a SMALL part of the "game." It's about realizing your full potential
as a man - and a human being.
I love a good success story like this. I get so many of
them, but they never get old.
Now, as for your question, I'd have to fire one back at you:
What does it matter to you if your
'friends' approve of your new life of abundance?
(And they sound a bit like jealous dorks
to me.)
Why would you listen to Beta dog opinions - or even dignify
their ignorant comments with a response?
Be careful about your peer group. Their expectations and pressure will be
a big limiting factor in your life.
An old mentor of mine once said "Don't
take advice from someone who isn't doing what you want to do. They're all just afraid of living
their own lives and going after what they want."
Continued ...
I'll tell you what I would do if my friends were giving me a hard time -
I'd treat them just like any woman that tried to hold me to lower standards:
"Well, maybe YOU would jump in her pants, but
I have standards. When you sleep with ANY woman, you're telling yourself
that you're not choosy. You'll take anything that comes along just to satisfy
your noodle. Not me. I've got enough opportunity that I don't need to take
everything that comes my way. Have you ever asked yourself why you don't
set standards for yourself? Why do you think this is?"
You're not the one to defend yourself, HE is.
Being selective sends a good message to your nervous system. It reinforces
healthy self-esteem.
Most guys don't have standards. They'd jump on anything that moves. And as
a result, they get the women that suit that kind of mindset.
Remember that getting laid is actually
pretty easy. The real trick is channeling
that reckless sexual energy into Alpha
Power that will get you ahead in life.
(And get you the genuinely gorgeous women, not just the 'pretty faces.')
Stay true to your path. And stay away from the people who would make you
feel bad about what you know to be right.
That's the most powerful statement of the Alpha Man.
SECRETS FROM AN ALPHA MAN:
"Carlos,
"I would like to personaly thank
you for creating this book and being an expert on "Alpha Men".
I am currently reading your ebook, "Secrets
of the Alpha Man", and I am loving all of it ...yours gives
a complete guide to the alpha
male attitude. I now have a basis that I can start form, and can
combine the information I've gotten from the books. I can already tell
a difference in how women perceive me just by the way I act, walk, and
talk now.
"... But man I can't thank you
enough for what I'm learning, and I'm not even halfway through the book
yet. Thanks..."
- T in VA
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QUESTION: This
is How
to Win Your Girlfriend Back ...
Carlos, I've been listening to your podcasts and reading your blog for over
a year now. A question I have for you is this: what advice to you have for
good looking guys who have troubles with women? I ask because I once fell
into this category, but fixed it to a good extent about a year ago, based
a great deal on the advice you give.
Of course it comes down to a lack of confidence. Yet even
now, having been in the same relationship for over a year, I find that my
confidence is sometimes higher and sometimes lower, and I take steps to correct
it when it drops. I ask for advice on what, if anything, good looking guys
must do differently, much for myself but also for my friend. Women I know
find him very attractive, and he sometimes finds a woman by the end of the
night, but overall he is dissatisfied with how he does, and having been there,
I feel for him...
I once read either from
you or David D'Angelo that very good looking guys must cut back on the "cocky
and funny" lest they intimidate or actually insult the woman, coming
off more easily as arrogant. Do you have any thoughts on these matters?
By the way, I am a great evangelist of yours. By
following your advice to "be
a real man" – gaining and expressing deep-seated confidence – I
was able to win back my girlfriend over a year ago, after several months of
on-and-off, and overall very beta behavior on my part.
Now I know that you say it's a bad idea to expend energy on one you lost,
but the ironic (and obvious) thing was that once I became my own man, not
hers, and exhibited a true alpha
mindset, that things have worked out quite
well ever since.
I believe that when both people know they have options,
yet choose the one they're with, the relationship is founded on a very rare
level of confidence that makes things just great. It keeps attraction high
on both sides and maintains the chase, which in many relationships ends fairly
quickly.
I still read your material to perform maintenance on myself and my relationship,
making sure I don't fall into the whipped category with my girlfriend, or
into the beta category with my male friends. Perpetual thanks for the advice!
- Mike
CARLOS ANSWERS:
First of all, what you say at the end of your letter is
what I've been saying all along, and it's nice to hear it from someone who's
actually taking my advice:
"Ironically, if you are to ever stand
a chance of getting a womn back, this is the only way to do it. Only
by demonstrating the ability to get on with your life will she ever find
you attractive again."
And there it is, in black & white.
You used the advice and strategies in my
programs and you got results. You
got her back.
I've done the same with women in the past. It was
a path I had to travel to learn my own power as an Alpha
Man. But most of
the time you'll hear me recommend that you don't get caught up in winning
a woman back because guys tend to lose their posture when they do it. They
do it to "get the woman," not
to "improve as a man."
BIG DIFFERENCE.
Now, on to your question about how to handle things if you're a good looking
guy.
Yes, you must realize that looks DO make a difference, but not in the way
that you might think.
Most intelligent women over the age of 26 believe
that a good looking guy is a "player." (Even younger women are
conditioned this way, but they get over it faster.) That is something you
have to get past right away, and it does hold you back. So, ironically,
you're better off being average looking than really good looking.
Continued
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The best approach for a good looking guy is to be
VERY down-to-earth. Be cool, but lay off the cocky behavior. Anything even
remotely cocky will be looked at as arrogant. And it's much easier for a
good looking guy to overdo it and over-qualify himself. The woman gets such
a strong "vibe" from
him that she gets intimidated and disqualifies herself.
She already knows your looks give you a genetic edge over the competition,
but now she needs to know you're a TRUSTABLE guy. Not a 'player.'
For those of you out there reading this right now
that aren't good at calibrating to this "Alpha
Man" ideal, I have
something that you will find LIFE-CHANGING.
You don't have to go to one of my bootcamps.
You can simply just get the home-study course of the same Alpha
Immersion program I use to train my students (and instructors) in the field.
It's my
latest DVD program, and I just got some new stock of them in the warehouse
this week.
Again, the reality is that if you're only reading the
newsletters or listening to my podcast, you need more. It's like meeting up
with a group of people who just attended a seminar. You can sort
of understand
what they're discussing - BUT you don't have the same foundation they have
from attending.
Take a look at the Alpha Man Immersion Program HERE.
There's an old saying: Everybody wants to get into heaven,
but nobody wants to die.
A lot of the situations
guys write in about are a bit unclear because many guys delude themselves
as to their real level of success with
women. The reality is that most guys DO
NOT get what they
want from their interactions and relationships with women.
Shitty as that is, there is a cure for the common Lonely
Single Guy.
It's called EDUCATION.
It's the only way to stop being a whipped, scared, beta
guy and get your love life under your control again.
If you could learn secrets to attract
women, would you?
Can you see past
your ego defense mechanisms and embrace the power of the Alpha Man?
When you have enough women and action in your life, you
won't feel like you need to analyze or chase every chick that comes into your
sphere of influence. And that's a good thing. You'll act on it because
you've got a sense
of abundance in your life.
If you'd like to create your plan for making your life what you want, develop
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Click here to read about the Alpha
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I know there are some guys who won't understand how these concepts go together,
but all success in life is linked together by some common principles.
If you're not getting what you want from life, you need to make some changes.
Stop putting your destiny off until some other 'convenient'
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"Carlos, my man!
I can't thank you enough for the valuable information you have shared
with me and how open my eyes have become to the tests and challenges
that women have put on me all my life.
"I would have to
say that your Alpha
Man Program is one of the
best solutions to getting this part of your life in order, as well
as, getting you where you want to be mentally to attract more of the
caliber women we all want in our lives. I hope we have a lasting relationship
in the form of mental growth for many years to come and thanks again
buddy..."
- Javier
"Hey carlos, thank
you for the Secrets
of the Alpha Man course.
I think I must've listened to the cd's four or five times now !
"The
confidence I've gained in meeting da ladeez at work and socially has
been tremendous. I was never skeptical at your
program, but was interested/concerned
as how I would notice the changes in myself. The clincher was when
several of my closest friends ... pointed out to me that I had confidence
in so many ways!
"Thank you so much
for your hard work for making it easier for the rest of us !"
- Richie from UK
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"The difference between
great people and everyone else is that great people create their lives
actively, while everyone else is created by their lives, passively
waiting to see where life takes them next."
- Michael E. Gerber
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