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Carlos Gives You the Truth About Dating and Attraction...
Every man is
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QUESTION:
Carlos,
Hey, I have been reading your newsletters and have found myself in a bit
of a bad situation lately. I am one of those attractive dudes that always
has good luck with the ladies (at first) but problems start showing up with
time and relationships.
I have been dating a girl for 6 months now but the last week with her has
been a living hell. Before I get to something more specific let me say that
when I met her I was extremely cocky bordering arrogant with humor thrown
in. She has complained about me being cocky since about the first week.
Now, I hear time and time again how she wants to
know where she stands and that she loves me regardless of my being cocky.
She tells me that she would like a "nice" Stan instead of a cocky
one. I quess I need a biiiaaatch slap from you because today for the first
time in 6 months I sent a long e-mail (not mushy - but just a bit too revealing).
I hope that I can be forgiven for this Alpha
Man sin.
I am also finding it harder to be away from here-losing
some touch with my inner game. I am getting a big case of oneitis and I
need that slap...
She has also talked about her dating history and
all of the "nice" guys
were flushed by her. So my problem is that she says that she wants to know
where she stands in the relationship and that my cockiness is the reason for
all of the fighting.
At what stage of the relationship does a man ease up (if at all)? We have
been fighting (a lot) and I would like to break the cycle and just have a
dating situation that is more fun and light like it used to be. Carlos I am
also curious about this.
This girl has confessed her love for me almost on
a daily basis (between the fighting) but I have slipped up a few times and
told her that I loved her back. Yes, at first I told her "you are everything
that I never thought that I wanted" and she loved it but now it is
just "I love you, too."
Danger Will Robinson Danger. Can a man that has got the
girl keep her even after a few wuss attacks (long letter, one too many calls,
I love you, etc.).
Any suggestions on recovery?
Stan
CARLOS ANSWERS:
First of all, you guys are thinking WAY too black & white.
I never told you that you couldn't tell a woman how you felt ... just not
in the first 10-12 dates at least!
And right now, I'm not too convinced that your moment
of "wimping" was to
blame.
The most common mistake guys make with women is this:
* Boy meets girl.
* Girl likes boy, but plays it cool
* Boy likes girl, but is drawn into infatuation for
her because she's the rabbit and he's the hound.
* Boy goes overboard and starts pulling "Rom-Com" (romantic
comedy) moves, like telling her she's his destiny, and trying to CONVINCE her to like him rather than SHOW her why she should.
* Girl loses interest because he wasn't enough
of a challenge, and failed all the "needy/clingy/desperate" tests
she put in front of him.
* Boy becomes despondent and heartbroken. Stalks woman until restraining
order goes into effect.
Okay, so the last one is an add-on of mine, but you'd
think this was the end of 90% of the promising date situations out there.
Look, after you've been seeing someone for more than a
few months, it's okay to let her know that you love her or
care about her. Just don't gush and come across like a weepy, overly sensitive
wuss. Be an Alpha Man about it!
One of my favorite charms is to do this: When a woman
says, "I love you," you say the infamous Han Solo line: "I know."
She'll act one way on the outside, but be prickly with
attraction on the inside.
Mix it up. Tell her you love her one day, and the next
tell her you hate her - with a big smile on your face.
Mixed messages.
But by all means, occasionally tell her your feelings.
Just do it in a way that shows you don't care if she feels the same way. THAT is
how you tell a woman you dig her. So she understands that you're in charge
of your own reality.
If you leave her wanting for too long, she's start to get nervous and test
you even more because she's getting NO reassurances from you. That's not so
good.
We do what we do as Alpha
Men because it's the right model for today's modern
masculine man. NOT because we're trying to manipulate and control someone
out of their insecurities.
BIG difference.
Being cocky all the time is annoying.
Yeah, that's the truth, all you big fans of "cocky
and funny." It
can be downright grating on a person's nerves to have this constant mouthy,
cocky routine running non-stop. It's mostly this way because so few guys understand
how to use it correctly.
Cocky and funny, or tease-to-please as I developed and enhanced it, is only
effective as a SPICE. Not the main dish.
Use it SPARINGLY.
You do it every so often to build up some playful sexual
tension. Don't go
crazy with it.
(continued ... )
Make sense?
If she remains difficult to be with when you're a more
calm individual (meaning that it looks like she needs the constant conflict
to stay interested), you really should consider moving on.
This is not a person you can be with over the long term. Some women only want
the DRAMA of a relationship, not the happiness and security.
Look, it sounds like your calibration is all off on this area, and I want
to put you back on track. I filmed my Alpha
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QUESTION:
I heard about you when you did [David
DeAngelo] DYD's Interview Series.
I have a situation that has been bothering me and I know its also an issue
with other guys here but they don't want to admit it.
I been noticing lately that most of the HB's I want to talk to are usually
on the cellphone walking around. So how would the Alpha man deal with a HB
on her cell walking around? I find this to be very difficult to deal with.
CARLOS ANSWERS:
Glad you were able to get the David D. Interview. I'm
pretty sure it's next to impossible to come by now, since it was incredibly
popular, so hang on to it. It'll be worth a bundle on E-bay soon. :)
Yes, the reality is that you will frequently find
yourself at the mercy of a "lockout" element. A "lockout" is
anything a hot woman uses to keep herself inaccessible - a convenient excuse
to not talk to you, ignore you, or keep her life uncomplicated with the
approaches of chump men.
It really all boils down to a few things...
First of all: Do you have the persistence to break into her world?
If you don't have the deeply-grounded and rooted belief in yourself that
is necessary, you'll cave the first time she pushes back on you.
There's a reason she's on the cell phone. It gives her a convenient and powerful
excuse to not talk to guys who approach her.
Imagine the life of a Hot Woman:
- Approached all day long
- Dorky guys constantly trying to get her number, using
lame-ass pickup lines
- Chumps always looking to
satisfy their personal agenda with her
- Having to turn guys down all the time, and even the
ones she might have given a chance if he hadn't been a dumbass
- Preferring to avoid the whole problem by keeping a
cell phone clamped to her head
Yeah, it's gotta suck.
But seriously, if you had dorky women approaching you all day long, you'd
come up with these kinds of defense mechanisms, too. It simplifies life.
So how do you deal with it?
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Wave her down. Stop her with a very serious look on your
face.
"Hey, I need your attention."
When you've got it:
"I realize you're probably blissfully happy
not to have to talk to the other dorks who tried to pick up on you today,
but I'm not one of them. I just wanted to let you know that you have a wonderful
energy about you. If you're interested in learning more, get rid of that
call and meet me over here. K?"
Wink.
Move over.
Wait and watch her out of the corner of her eye, not directly.
When she gets rid of her call, you're on. Pretty simple,
eh?
Get bizzy...
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A lot of the situations
guys write in about are a bit unclear because many guys delude themselves
as to their real level of success with
women. The reality is that most guys DO
NOT get what they
want from their interactions and relationships with women.
Shitty as that is, there is a cure for the common Single Guy.
It's called EDUCATION.
If you could learn secrets to attract women, would you?
Can you see past
your ego defense mechanisms and embrace the power of the Alpha Man?
When you have enough women and action in your life, you
won't feel like you need to analyze or chase every chick that comes into your
sphere of influence. And that's a good thing. You'll act on it because
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Are you ready to drop that lame "Nice Guy" routine
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"Carlos, my man! I can't thank you enough for the valuable information
you have shared with me and how open my eyes have become to the tests
and challenges that women have put on me all my life.
"I would have to say that your Alpha
Man Program is one of the
best solutions to getting this part of your life in order, as well
as, getting you where you want to be mentally to attract more of the
caliber women we all want in our lives. I hope we have a lasting relationship
in the form of mental growth for many years to come and thanks again
buddy..."
- Javier
"Hey carlos, thank you for the Secrets
of the Alpha Man course.
I think I must've listened to the cd's four or five times now !
"The
confidence I've gained in meeting da ladeez at work and socially has
been tremendous. I was never skeptical at your
program, but was interested/concerned
as how I would notice the changes in myself. The clincher was when
several of my closest friends ... pointed out to me that I had confidence
in so many ways!
"Thank you so much for your hard work for making it
easier for the rest of us !"
- Richie from UK
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"The difference between
great people and everyone else is that great people create their lives
actively, while everyone else is created by their lives, passively
waiting to see where life takes them next."
- Michael E. Gerber
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