Tuesday, July 03, 2007

When a girl likes a guy just as friends...

What does it mean that when a girl says that guy that she doesn't know, she has a crush on them, but guys that she does know, she likes them as friends.

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CARLOS ANSWERS A BRIEF NOTE WITH BREVITY:

It means there's more here to look at. You're looking at the situation from too high a level. Too general.

There are lots of situations with women that do not "mean" anything in and of themselves. It's PATTERNS that you should watch for. Sometimes a woman just likes the fantasy of a man better than the reality. (I'd bet any money that this girl is younger than 22.)

The phenomenon you're speaking of, however, does have some basis in the fact that women stay friends with guys they're not going to sleep with (for a variety of reasons which I've discussed before), and they invent romantic scenarios and superficial emotions for men they don't know.

It's up until she's actually met a guy that she can invent whatever fantasy she wants about him that leads to her having a "crush" on him.

But when she finally meets him or gets to know him, what typically happens?

90% of guys will mess it up by:

- Being too socially clueless
- Being too needy
- Being too obnoxious/arrogant
- Etc.

And it's usually at this point that she can safely take him out of fantasy mode and into reality mode... tossing him in the "Friends Only" bucket.

Obviously some guys manage to avoid this and do get somewhere with her.

What's that?

How do they do it?

You want to avoid this fate?

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