The Smart Guy and the Dumb Guy Go Dating...

You mention the smart guy and the dumb guy. What is this theory entail? I have a Masters Degree in Information Systems and sometimes analyze things too much. What advantage does the dumb guy have over the smarter more educated man if any?
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CARLOS ANSWERS:

There is a smart guy in all of us that likes to get analytical and logical. Yes, it usually matches up with what I call the "engineer" mentality.

I was also an IT geek for a long time. I could diagnose a server issue at warp speed. I could configure a RAID array in a single bound.

I worked as a consultant in infrastructure and engineering of many different dot-coms and startups out here in the SF Bay area. Oh, those times were good, my brothers. Lotsa yummy lunches and dinners. Vendor gifts galore. Baseball games, football games.

Sigh...

Hey, the fact of the matter is, geeks rule the world. But the same skills that let you diagnose a routing problem on an IP WAN are not going to do DICK for you in a social situation. (And if you started having flashbacks to the last time you were working at the command prompt and had to do a traceroute, you are an UBER-geek, dude.)

Hard skills, black & white skills do nothing for us in the arena of social intuition. In fact, this kind of thinking will make it very difficult and frustrating for you because nothing is what it seems on the surface, and a woman's answer to your question will always be different depending on the day, the woman, the number of drinks she's had, etc.

The advantage a dumb guy has is that he's almost always NOT in his own head trying to pick apart the situation. He's not trying to deal in anything but the NOW, which is where all good and effective conversation is.

You have to let go of your hardcore analytical nature (as I had to) and simply learn how to appreciate ambiguity and uncertainty.

I believe that in the heart of most of the "engineer" guys out there is a little control freak.

Trust me, I should know. I was a control freak for a long time. It was only when I started letting go of this need to control and overpower the situations in my life that I learned how to be truly charismatic and attract women.

In fact, a great many of the "educated" people I've met seem to lack a comfortable spiritual and sexual edge. We all have a tendency to dive into the intellectual as an escape from learning the emotional.

Balance - in all things.

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