Testing and what she REALLY means...

Hi carlos.

It's me  again. I just received  my alpha man CDs and  just heard  them all. let  me  congratulate you, it is  excellent material  for my life. ok, in the  last  cd #6 in the track #7 (the seven success factors to be effective  in seduction and  dating)

I found  my only big  problem. I would  say I am pretty good  at all the  points  mentioned, except the point # 5 which is  overcoming  objections and  the problem here is  that I am not good  at recognizing real objections  from false objections. for example, when I had  agreed  on a  date  with  girl,  in the previous day  she said:  "...you  know  I cannot  go out  tomorrow with you  because  I am going  out with my other  friend (male  of  course) I told  you  about, I don't  know if I will be  free next saturday..you can call me  and  see  if  I will be  free that day".   

Carlos, this is my problem. I don't  want to give up easily on the competition for any girl but  on the  other  hand  I don't  know  if  they  really mean that they  don't  want to go out  with me because of other reasons like  she  has  another  option, other  than me or  she  is  just trying  to  test me.  

Again why the hell do women do this??? why do they test us??? so, should  I give up and  not call her  never anymore or should  I behave like a  beggar?

thank you  Carlos  for your best response, I will really appreciate it.  by the way, why is  the  name  alpha man?  why alpha?

your friend   E.H.      

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CARLOS:

First of all, I call it "Alpha"  because of the scientific term for the dominant male of any species. You can read up on that one at Wikipedia or something. It's a common enough term.

Second, never even consider acting the role of the "beggar."

Not only is a desperate man the lowest kind, he's REPULSIVE to women.

We are attracted to those people who carry themselves with power, conviction, and confidence.

Now, this woman is obviously not that into you. She's giving you the ol' "Call me and I'll see if I'm available."

This is woman-speak for "I'm not digging you, and I'm SO hoping you will just give up and disappear so that I don't have to reject you to your face."

Harsh?

Yeah.

True?

OH yeah.

You see, women don't want to make you feel bad. And they also will not confront a situation directly and sit you down to explain what you're doing wrong or why they aren't digging you...

You asked "Why...? Why ...? Why...?"

Why is not important. You're focusing too much on rationalizing emotional behavior. You'll go nuts doing this. Just ACCEPT it first, and then deal with it.

You don't ask why rain gets you wet when you go out in it, but you bring an umbrella to deal with it, don't you?

The same thing applies here. You can beat your head against the wall trying to understand it (which is possible if you use your melon and think about what her reasons for doing it would be... hint: I discuss this in detail in the Dating Black Book and the Secrets of the Alpha Man programs...)

She tests you because a man could SAY anything about himself, but his ACTIONS are the TRUTH.

See my previous posts about how to understand which are REAL objections and which are false...

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