Go ahead, toot it....

 
Carlos,
  
I must start off by tooting your horn about how well written your material is.  You present yourself in a very articulate manner formulating your material in an easy to understand format.  Thanks!  

Now this leads to my question.  Do you have any plans in the future of diving deeper on handling "social situations"?  I feel if people had the tools and skills to properly handle social outings it would enhance there Alpha Attitude, continue their upward spiral, and ease approach anxiety.  

It would be nice to hear your take on the best methods an Alpha would use for the different environments (i.e.  High Energy places, meeting new people in other cities, small gatherings, or just folks you'd come across through out your days).  Some people have that gift to work a crowd or social interaction, look at Bill Clinton.  

I personally find myself on both ends of the spectrum.  Sometimes I'm on "fire" with lots of conversation pieces for social events.  Other times I fumble trying to find my place in the group so I don't feel like I'm outside looking in the window.  Any Ideas?
  
   
Thanks and continue your good work
- J

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CARLOS:

By all means, toot my horn...

Just give me a hug first so I don't feel used.

The subject you refer to is something that I cover pretty completely in my Approach Women program, my Secrets of the Alpha Man, and a new segment I'm preparing in the Advanced Audio Coaching.

It's a big topic, so there's no way I can go into it all here, but I'll get you started.

Social situations are very organic, so I can't address them all, but I can tell you that some social situations hold a lot of common ingredients. The one that will always be there is YOU.

The best way to adapt to different social situations is through the use of your own personality and energy.

There is always one thing in common to all social situations you will run into.

YOU.

As the saying goes, wherever you go, there you are.

So the trick that so many guys miss is that you MUST learn how to use your own strengths to bend the reality of the environment to your own desire.

NOT, as some guys would tell you, to do the reverse, which is to let the environment rule YOU.

Now, HOW to do this is much of what I cover in the Secrets of the Alpha Man course, and is much too extensive to cover here, but I can tell you that you need to start with your own personal strengths. Not every guy (in fact, very few guys) are as socially dynamic as a Bill Clinton. For most of us, it's a struggle to make conversation at times.

The key is to find the right motivation to talk about the right things at the right time. And to just say SOMETHING. Most guys hold back out of fear of rejection and not knowing where to take things in the process.

From there, you need to find REAL topics that you can build REAL conversation from. Another reason so many guys find the approach and the conversation so tough is that they aren't talking about things they actually CARE about. This difference between using some clever technique and where your self-image stands is what I call The Gap. And it's where so many other guys go wrong with their game.

To do something, you MUST enjoy it. Otherwise you will be negatively motivated by the pain of the situation. So you have to find a comfortable way to enjoy your social interactions. I built up slowly by taking every social situation at MY pace. Then I added more thought and purpose into my approaches. It took a little time, but now there is NO situation that I cannot feel at home in, even when it's really foreign to me.

For now, the best way I can recommend you learn the skill of approach is to check out my Approach Women NOW program. I compiled all my best tips, exercises, and techniques for social interaction in one package for you to use.

Check it out here: Approach Women - NOW

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