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Carlos
gives you the straight Truth...
Why Your "Techniques" Aren't
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You need to free yourself from the prison of "technique." Why would I say this? I give out a bunch of techniques because they do help you out. Training wheels, right? That's how techniques are supposed to be used, as training wheels so that you can develop your own natural ability. But that analogy doesn't begin to cover the whole situation... Techniques have a MUCH deeper impact on your game than you realize. I'm going to tell you first about "The Gap." I spoke about this concept at the seminar in Montreal, and I want to pass this on to you right now so that you won't be lost down the path of "Lonely Pickup Artist." Attraction techniques fulfill an important purpose that many guys don't even realize. Techniques allow you to pretend to be another person, to leave behind the faulty belief systems, damaged self-esteem, and other limiting behaviors and step into the shoes of your alter ego. It's a little bit like putting on a super hero outfit and becoming Spider-man or Batman for a day. Or a couple hours in a club, or on a date. Just like Halloween, for a short time, you can let go of all that crap in your head and just play the part.
Yadda yadda yadda. And so on. Eventually, though, the clever dialogue runs out, doesn't it? It ALWAYS does. The first part of most guy's "outer game" (his techniques and routines) is just staying with women long enough to make it go somewhere deeper than just getting her phone number. I see this as being the biggest developmental hurdle for most guys I teach at my seminars.
Techniques allow you to escape yourself a little bit... but guess what? You can never escape yourself forever. Like they say, wherever you go, there you are. And The Gap hits you in the face when you've been chatting with women and running routines, and running "kino" (touching techniques), and eventually you feel the distance between this pickup persona you've been crafting for yourself, and the REAL man inside you. They feel miles apart, because deep inside, you know this isn't who you are... You see, your mind knows when you're playing this alter ego, and when you're being true to yourself. Even though it sounds like I'm coming down on the use of techniques, I'm not. I'm just warning guys about the over-using and over-relying on lines and routines to carry their personality. They can be just like drugs: It's easy to become so over-dependent on this false persona that you wake up one day and realize you were being a one-dimensional guy. Trust me when I say that all the (you-know-what between a woman's legs) in the world cannot help your total meltdown if you build a lifestyle on such a superficial and fragile belief system.
It's just like the woman who's a 9 or a 10 waking up one way with crow's feet wrinkling her eyes, and a saggy, aging body. Her self-confidence crashes horribly as she realizes she never had any REAL inner value. It was all based on the junk bonds of her appearance. Of course, your "techniques" can be made into yourself, and they MUST if this skill of attraction is to stick. But eventually, all guys feel the need to get back to who you REALLY are. We can only be an actor for so long before it haunts you. You know what... ? It's coming, guys. There will be a day very soon when women are well versed in the lines and the standard openers, and your "game" will be over faster than the XFL. (Yeah, that football league that just disappeared overnight.) In fact, if you haven't been caught by a woman yet, you probably haven't been approaching women in the real world as much as you should be. (i.e., outside a loud, alcohol-saturated bar environment.)
So How Do You Stop Being A 'Pickup Artist' And Get REAL With Women? So here's how you bridge that great divide between the "pickup artist" and the "REAL Alpha Man" inside you: 1) Stop using techniques that are working great for you. Why would I say this? Because it's not the technique or the "opening line" that's working for you. It's only your belief and confidence in that line or routine that makes it work. What you need to do is substitute some part of your genuine personality that you can pull off with the same attitude and frame. When you accomplish this, you'll really have transcended "pickup artist" and become an Alpha Man.
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2) When you can open groups of women consistently, Start asking questions that REALLY matter to you. Stop opening conversations with mindless openers like "Who lies more, men or women?" and others like it. Especially if you have no real interest in your question except for the outcome of getting the conversation started. It's time to put a few more plates on the barbells. Tap into your inner beliefs and desires to come up with things that you REALLY want to know about this woman. Find your REAL curiosity for what makes her tick. My social worker ex-girlfriend used to call this "breaking them down" and it's a priceless method of cutting through the social B.S. and demonstrating your Independent Value. I've had incredible experiences seducing a woman's soul instead of just trying to trigger a few unstable defense mechanisms by making her feel insecure. True confidence is when you walk up and open a group without saying a single word. Try it for yourself. It takes a while to get there, but it absolutely BLOWS WOMEN AWAY. They can feel your presence like the heat of the noon-day sun.
3) Start exposing your TRUE personality when you go out to meet women. This is what I called demonstrating vulnerability. Having the personal power to show your own emotional depth is ten times more authentic and sincere. And women KNOW it. You'll find yourself achieving new levels of at traction with women that will make your old makeout-in-the-bar situations sound as lame as a George Lucas love dialogue in the last Star Wars movies. The one thing that vulnerability demonstrates is POWER. This is the little known factor that most guys miss because they're locked into "insecurity armor" mode. This is where he is too busy protecting his insecurities and hiding his lack of confidence with his bravado. ("Bravado" is nothing more than simulated courage.) "Get past technique so that you can create your own style of Masculine Identity..."
"Men are anxious to improve their circumstances, but are unwilling to improve themselves. They therefore remain bound." —JAMES ALLEN, AS A MAN THINKETH
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Secrets of the Alpha Man Are HERE.... It's time for you to get what you want in your own life. Remember that the most important thing to risk - every day of your life - is to risk learning something new. If you fail (which you can never really do), you won't lose a thing. You're right where you were. And if you succeed, you have just increased your personal power, your confidence, and your attractiveness to women - a hundred times. Take this small risk every day you can. Just remember: Every man is self-made, but only the SUCCESSFUL admit it.
"Carlos "Not sure if this will actually get to you.
Just wanted to say "I honestly havent felt this confident and had so much control with a women ever... You're Bigger than life! keep it coming "Sincerely, Ron S."
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