CARLOS XUMA'S DATING ADVICE NEWSLETTER:
What does it take to be successful with women...?
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Carlos Xuma and the TRUTH About Dating and
Attraction...
Because every
man is self-made, but only the SUCCESSFUL admit it.
Thursday, 6:34 PM: Carlos Xuma's Desk
Well, by the time you read this, I'll be knee-deep in Vegas decadence.
Perhaps not that bad, but I'll be there in Sin City to hold my elite
training session: The Alpha Lifestyle Seminar.
A lot of people asked why I would hold a seminar on being R.E.A.L. and
about how to manifest a value-driven lifestyle in - of all places - Las
Vegas, the glittery city of ... well ... showbiz wannabes and strippers.
The fact is that there is no better place to illustrate the contrast
that I speak of and show guys how to realize their REAL potential than
in Vegas.
Dean Cortez and I have put together a POWERFUL training program to get
guys past their limiting beliefs and on to a new
reality.
Sounds grandiose, doesn't it?
Well, that's what it is, and I'm finally
unleashing this program on a select group of trainees. We'll be meeting
up at the Palms in the penthouse suite (yeah, the one that I beat out
Clooney and Pitt for), to reveal the secrets of this program.
Essentially, this is the final phase of development for the Alpha
Man,
taking his dating and attraction skills and creating the complete LIFESTYLE that he deserves.
We'll be unleashing a new e-book that will outline the power of the Alpha
Man - and it's called The Alpha Rules. If you'd like to get on the advanced
notice list for the book and know when it's available, go check it out
here: WWW.THEALPHARULES.COM
Now on to this week's newsletter:
QUESTION: Whatever
it takes...
Top of the day. Recently I've been reading the Dating
Black Book and the
Seduction Method. Greak work man! Breaking the ice isn't really a problem
for me,after reading the DBB and SM.
What I don't understand is I feel I build enough rapport
with the girls I've been talking to recently. I mean I tell them how I'm into
male and female interactions and from the questions I would ask - which was
mostly the questions you asked Kathy in the interview [on the AAC
program]-
[and] they would completely tell me all they wanted to see in a man...
The craziest thing happened to me at a party. I was cock-blocked by this
stunning girl's friend. Her friend was a lesbian, so I didn't think she would
be jealous of her friend talking to me. She could tell her friend was deep
into the conversation with me, and would always pull her away.
What would I do in that kind of situation?
CARLOS XUMA'S ADVICE:
Of course she could be jealous of her friend talking to you. She wasn't jealous
of her friend - she was jealous of YOU because you were hitting on the woman
she was attracted to.
Ohhhh YEAH. Giggidy giggidy!
In reality, you should have worked to befriend the potential
cockblocker lesbian. (Wow, that's gotta be the first time I've
used that term.) When you see that there's another woman in the mix, you
need to work for her interest, too, or she's going to pull the pin on your
grenade and ruin your game.
So what do you do when you do all the right things and you still find yourself
blocked?
You have only one real option - You have to do whatever you have to.
What? You think that's too non-specific?
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There's a part of a recent movie I want to tell
you about. The movie is called "The
Last Kiss" and it stars Zach Braff (of "Scrubs" fame.) Zach
is a great guy, and I loved "Garden State," but this movie was the
epitome of the "chick flick." Still, there's usually something worth
redeeming in these movies, a lesson to be learned.
I did find one such nugget in the movie. The dad
of the girlfriend talks to Zach about his cheating on her, and
Zach asks the dad what to do. "You
do whatever you have to," he says. Meaning, it's not WHAT you do, it's
that you keep going until you succeed. IF you really want her back.
Well, long story short, Zach sleeps out on the porch for
a few days, and eventually she relents. I'm not sure of the lesson there except
that if you annoy and persistently try hard enough, any woman will ignore
her self-respect and just take you back. Anyway...
The message for you is this - If there's something you
want, you don't let anything get in your way. The ultimate statement of desire
is your work to GET what it is you desire. Nothing else speaks louder than
that.
I know a hundred guys that would say: "Man, I want a Lamborghini!" Yeah,
sure, dude. What guy doesn't want a $200,000 sports car?
But how many of them would be willing to really WORK their
asses off
to make the money for that car?
Not that many. They don't really want that
car. They're just saying they'd like to have it if it doesn't mean too much
effort on their part. They're tantalized by the possibility, but inside their
own head they've already decided that they'll never actually have it.
Contrast this with the guy who will actually DO what is necessary to acquire
what he wants. The guy who sits down and devises a plan to get the things
in life he wants. The man with the plan is the one that usually gets what
he wants.
If he wants it bad enough.
So when lesbian friend drags your girl away, do
you let her? No, dude. You go right back in there with your knife clenched
between your teeth... you duck under the barbwire, and you avoid the landmines.
Just go back up to the woman and say, "Hey, I realize we all didn't
get a chance to bond properly there and all, but I thought you were interesting.
I knew that if I didn't come over and at least get your number, I'd never
forgive myself."
You don't give up.
You are persistent not because you come from a place of weakness and lack
but from a place of desire and Alpha Strength.
If you don't know the difference, you should probably read
this...
QUESTION: Is
this how to program your mind ...?
Carlos-
Enjoying your Alpha Man cds...
The phrase that sends a shiver up my spine is "I'm gonna f@$k THREE
HOT WOMEN EVERY WEEK FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE!" I know this is a little
different from your "Super Confidence Now!" but since mine is a
little more direct, does it make it bad?
Even though it has not materialized yet, I know I will achieve my goal, not
because I am entitled to it, but because I am expecting it and know it will
happen.
Any suggestions, appreciated.
M
CARLOS XUMA'S ADVICE:
Well, here's a little suggestion,
and keep in mind that it's coming from a place of "been there, done
that, bought the t-shirt...."
When I talk about this topic of dating
and attraction, it always comes from
a place of respect for women and a place of honesty
within each guy. The bare-knuckle
truth is that even though you think that sleeping with a bunch of women is
your desire and gets you excited, it's really just a channel for your sexual
energy.
Deep inside, this isn't all you're looking for. A lot of guys think it's
sexual conquest they desire, but it's much
more than that.
Look, ask any woman that has an ounce of self-honesty and awareness and she'll
tell you that women want sex, too. In fact, women want sex MORE than men.
HUH? DID CARLOS JUST SAY WHAT I THINK HE DID?
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Yep. He did.
Because it's true. It's just that society has NEVER smiled upon women that
embrace their sexuality. In fact, in order to control women and ensure their
paternity (that a child was really theirs), men through the ages have created
rules and laws to make it difficult for women to show their sexual nature
outside the confines of a committed and monogamous relationship.
This hypocrisy is RAMPANT in our society. I deal with
it every day.
But let's not get too far off track here...
If you are setting your goal to be sexual fulfillment, that's your prerogative.
Go for it. Have fun, be safe, sleep well.
But if you have a goal that most men do, which is
to realize his full potential with not only women but with his success
in LIFE - increasing his financial success, friendships, influence, etc. -
then you need to get rid of the "f*ck
women" mindset. It will ultimately set you way back on your path to Alpha
Manhood.
You need to get a shiver up your spine for something that increases YOUR masculine
value, not just satiates your biological needs.
Creative visualization is one of the
most powerful mental processes you can
use to achieve whatever you want in your life. I included the various ways
in which you can create the kind of reality you want through this technique
in the Secrets of the Alpha Man. I want you to use it as a tool for greater
accomplishment.
So while your statement of intent there is one that I
think you can vividly imagine, it's not really all within your control. It's
also not realistic. And, sorry to say, you're not entitled to it. (Entitlement
is a deadly sin in your mind - eradicate it.)
Why not instead say: "I will learn the skills necessary to have any
woman I desire." Of course, phrase it in a way that gives you that tingle...
or just tack it on to the current one you made up.
But don't limit your thinking to simple sexual release.
You're a MAN. You are capable of creating Wonders
of the World. Don't squander
your immense potential on just bumping uglies...
Think about this for a bit..
All success in life - especially with women - comes from
a strong core of Inner
Game. What
is Inner Game?
It's your confidence. It's your attitude. You know when
a person has this it
oozes from them and gives them a comfortable vibe.
The reality is that True success with
women requires a firm
sense of direction in life, and self-confidence.
But you hear that all the time, don't you?
"Just be confident."
You'll hear that nugget of advice from a lot of
guys out there, but the difference is that they'll say "be confident," and
not give you ONE single method of actually improving
your confidence.
That's where I will help you.
I spent years trying out various self-help programs, studying
my own inner psychology (and inner wuss, too.) I figured out which things
make a difference and ...
... I have a plan to help
you improve your inner AND outer game with women.
When a woman senses that you've got passions and direction
in your life - even if that passion is to improve to be more attractive
to women - then
they'll want to come along for the ride.
I saw it over and over again as I went down this road.
Now, I also mapped this development, and I want you to benefit from my
experience.
There's no reason you should have to take as long as I did to make these changes
to your own life.
A Woman isn't looking for
a MAN - She's looking for a "Situation..."
For those of you out there reading this right now
that aren't sure how to calibrate to the "Alpha
Man" ideal, I have
something for you that you will find LIFE-CHANGING.
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right now to find out what I'm talking about, or just read on...
A lot of the situations
guys write in about are a bit unclear because many guys delude themselves
as to their real level of success with
women. The reality is that most guys DO
NOT get what they
want from their interactions and relationships with women.
Crappy as that is, there is a cure for the common Lonely
Single Guy.
It's called EDUCATION.
It's the only way to stop being a whipped,
scared, beta guy and get your love life under your control again.
If you could learn secrets to attract
women, would you?
Can you see past
your ego defense mechanisms and embrace the power of the Alpha Man?
When you have enough women and action in your life, you
won't feel like you need to analyze or chase every chick that comes into your
sphere of influence. And that's a good thing. You'll act on it because
you've got a sense
of abundance in your life.
If you'd like to create your plan for making your life what you want, develop
confidence, attract women, accumulate wealth, find happiness...
I know there are some guys who won't understand how these concepts go together,
but all success in life is linked together by some common
principles.
If you're not getting what you want from life, you need to make some changes.
Stop putting your destiny off until some other 'convenient'
time...
Discover your inner Alpha
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Listen
to what the other gurus are saying about Carlos' work...
"I've read every book and studied every system on dating and seduction.
The problem with most 'gurus' in this field is that they're not teaching
men how to build a solid foundation. Until you change your internal
belief system and adopt an Alpha mindset, all the tactics and techniques
in the world aren't going to do you any good. (Actually, it's like
learning just enough karate to get your ass kicked!) Carlos
Xuma is the best there is at teaching men how to develop their 'inner
game.' From there, he'll give you the complete set of tools for approaching
women, and life, with absolute confidence and skill. If you're in
this game to win it, these are the rules you
need to learn."
- "Supreme", M.A.C.K. Tactics co-creator
"Carlos Xuma is a man who has a clear passion for imparting the success
with women he has experienced to other guys worldwide. He approaches his
craft with immense integrity and a distinct style!"
- Scot McKay, X & Y
Communications, DeserveWhatYouWant.com
"Carlos Xuma is the REAL DEAL! If you are serious about
creating an extraordinary relationship. You will learn more about the
needs and desires of women than they do themselves! I highly recommend
Carlos to any man who is ready to get the woman of his dreams.
I love his game, its 100% real."
- the dean, Dating4Men.com
"Carlos Xuma is one of those rare guys in the field who actually GETS
what interacting with women is all about. His advice goes beyond
the pick-up lines and approach techniques that so many guys use
and fail with. Rather, Carlos gives guys everywhere practical, valuable
advice that will make men attractive not just for one night, but for many,
many years. He lays down the foundation for becoming a NATURALLY attractive
man, full of confidence and the ability to fully ENJOY being around hot
babes.
Unlike other pickup artists, Carlos shares information that helps you
not only in one area of life, but in many: in social relationships, at
work, sports, with personal goals. He'll help make you a well-rounded,
self-believing alpha MAN who's capable of just about anything.
And seducing gorgeous, high-quality women, is just the beginning."
- James Brito, How
to Be Irresistible to Women
"Carlos Xuma is one of the few men in the 'seduction' or 'attraction'
community who digs beneath the surface of passing attraction,
and Explores what it is to be a man who attracts women by virtue of his
character and, consequently, the natural outward expression of high character.
He brings words like 'discipline' and 'integrity' to
the forefront, and waddya know, those are exactly the qualities women
truly crave in a man."
- Grant Adams, CEO
- net2bed.com
"Hey Carlos, I write about the biology of men and women's behavior.
You seem to know the biology of behavior without knowing it. How
do you do that? You have a deep intuition of dynamics -
it took me 7 years of academic research to discover. And you find
sharp ways to apply it practically... Keep up the good work, brother."
- Joe Quirk, Author
of "Sperm are from Men, Eggs are from Women"
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Remember what Carlos says:
"NO WOMAN has the self-control to STOP pursuing that
which she TRULY desires..."
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Game ® and the successful attitudes of an Alpha Man: Take a look
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Prove it to yourself - If you want to hear all the great
things everyone has to say about these books, go to the site and read the
reviews. And then download them now to see why more men get success with
my advice and strategies ...
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Listen to what this guy says about his experience
learning the Truth:
"I have purchased your Dating
Black Book and Approach
Women Now CD series. I have to tell you that after
reading the book and listening to the CDs I could help but feel
like the dorkiest man alive. I have let woman control my emotions
and have responded to them instead of them responding to me.
I always came off as a needy unconfident pervert!
"... I have learned to set standards and
not let a woman test me without busting their balls. I hope that if
I keep this up I will eventually find a woman that qualifies to be
in my life.
"One big thing too, if a woman sees that
I have things going on in my life, they tend to be more interested
instead of the bore I used to be. I have the motivation now to follow
my dreams and if a woman wants to be part of that then so be it, but
I have learned not to let a woman pull me off course of where I want
to go and do in my life..."
"Hey carlos, thank you for the Secrets
of the Alpha Man course. I think I must've listened to the
CDs four or five times now !
"The confidence I've gained in meeting
da ladeez at work and socially has been tremendous. I was never
skeptical at your
program, but was interested/concerned as how I would notice
the changes in myself. The clincher was when several of my closest
friends ... pointed out to me that I had confidence in so many ways!
"Thank you so much for your hard work for
making it easier for the rest of us!"
- Richie from UK
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great people and everyone else is that great people create their lives
actively, while everyone else is created by their lives, passively
waiting to see where life takes them next."
- Michael E. Gerber
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