CARLOS XUMA'S DATING ADVICE NEWSLETTER:
Entitled Women - Angry Men ...
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Carlos Xuma and the TRUTH About Dating and
Attraction...
Because every
man is self-made, but only the SUCCESSFUL admit it.
Friday, 2:20 PM: Carlos Xuma's Desk
Another week of madness and mayhem...
I have to tell you, I just got done reading a book on
the myths surrounding
women's infidelity, and let me tell you, it scared the shit out
of me. This book has laid bare all the truths surrounding cheating wives,
and some of it shocked the hell out of me. The reasons that women
are cheating more and more, and why they get
away with it, for one, and the reasons why - no matter
what you do - she is likely to cheat on you.
I'm telling you, this book was a revelation. I've never
read a book that hit so many truths about what is going on behind the "Lace
Curtain" (which is what I call the divide between the genders and the secrecy
surrounding the hidden lives of women.)
I will be revealing this book to the AAC
subscribers soon,
and to you guys next. Be prepared to be blown away.
Here's one thing that I still believe in my heart and
soul:
If you want your relationship/marriage to a woman to succeed,
you MUST become an Alpha Man and demonstrate
powerful self-confidence. (By the way, this is not something you're going
to learn by imitating a bunch of 'routines' or stacked openers. No matter
how hard you try, your self-esteem will always shine through your lines...)
Ironically, at the end of the book I read, the one thing
that became clear was that men are losing their ability to be strong
and powerful men as they cross certain age threshholds, and it's
something you need to fight tooth and nail if you're going to succeed in the
long run. The answer is always confidence and assertiveness.
Otherwise known as certainty and action.
On to this week's newsletter:
QUESTION: When
you start to get negative and bitter...
Hiya Carlos, this is Alek from the Belgrade seminar.
Personally I used to have little success, then
got some success, then got misogynistic, then had a big period of pausing
and depression.
Now having recovered from that depression period. I am back on the fast curve,
and so is my friend. Now, the more women we're meeting, getting numbers from,
the more misogynistic we're getting.
All those ideas of "WOMEN are such c*nts!", "Why
can't they appreciate more of what we do" "It's so fucking EASY
for them ... " "all they do is show up, and get whatever they want,
and we have to do all this work".
We even get images of verbally and
*EVEN* physically putting down women. All they do is complain about how men
don't get it, and mock men for being "clods". All I want is some "RESPECT".
It's ok to not want what we men are offering, but at least be respectful about
the role we men are playing.
Got any tips? :)
CARLOS XUMA'S ADVICE:
I think Billy Joel said it best:
"Then she'll
carelessly cut you
And laugh while you're bleedin'
But she'll bring out the best
And the worst you can be
Blame it all on yourself
Cause she's always a woman to me..."
Blame it all on yourself, because she's just being her
nature. You must be
better than your nature AND hers by acting based on principle
and honor rather
than emotional reaction, or a desire for results.
You see, right now, you're placing the blame on someone
else's behavior.
You're presuming that it's their fault for being who they are. Women in every
culture will take advantage of the benefits that suit them, and you should
be taking advantage of the benefits that suit the men.
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Sometimes the burden of self-awareness is a lot to bear...
But what is the alternative?
Give up?
Stay angry at something you can't change?
Do we get mad because "it always gets me wet
when it f*cking rains!"
Oh. Poor you. Go buy an umbrella.
"But the weather won't appreciate that I've
bought the umbrella! I want to be respected for spending the money to use
that umbrella!"
Do you see how nutty this sounds? So why should we expect this from someone
who has no idea what it's like from our side? A woman can be as oblivious
to your efforts as the weather is to you.
Let's get back to the reality here. It's NOT so easy for women in most all
other areas. You may think that having men that they can have support them
is a great break, but really it just obligates them
to men rather than allowing
them to lead.
YOU get to lead! You get to choose your path in life! You get to take on
the world and chase your passion and purpose!
That beats the crap out of waiting
for guys to approach you in a crowded
and smokey club, right?
When you get angry and lash out, it's just showing poor
emotional control.
You need to get back to understanding your own personal power and strengths.
You're in a pit of desperate desire for affirmation
outside yourself. That's
why you can't be happy. You've given control of your happiness over to someone
else to either affirm or destroy.
How crazy is that?
Read on and I'll tell you how to reclaim that happiness.
QUESTION: On
the Path ...
As you know, I've been working vigoriously on my inner
game the past 2 years and I actually started going out the begining of 2007
but decided to stop because I felt I wanted to work on myself still some more...
I have achieved soo fuckin' much man, you dont know. I have tons more autonomy
right now (remember when I told you I was working on my independence) and
feel terrific overall. I have developed the inner power to work on my thinking
and I'm much more in touch with myself now.
Basically, I feel pretty good but there is always more you could work on
in terms of your thinking and emotions. I mean when and how do you know when
to stop? I definitely feel like I could go on forever and I know that my thinking
will never be perfect, but maybe you could give me some advice that could
help me out.
For instance, when did you decide to stop working on yourself in terms of
your thoughts and perceptions and just decide to start working on the physical
things in your life (like working out, going out and building your social
circle, etc etc)? Your advice would be greatly appreciated, thanks man.
Chris
CARLOS XUMA'S ADVICE:
You know, that's a good question, and the answer lies in how we handle
the thought process behind it.
First of all, congratulations on getting your life together. Not many guys
will take the steps forward to improve their circumstances. They'll wallow
in excuses (based in ego) and generally avoid improvement because of their
fear of losing their identity, or that by working on themselves that they're
somehow inadequate now.
You see, life is not black and white. And even though we as guys would love
to just take on ourselves as a project and just complete it so we can move
on to other things, it doesn't work that way.
This will either make you very excited or very
scared, but:
You will be working on self-improvement your whole life.
That's not a bad thing!
What's important is that you're on the path.
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I know it's a tired cliche, but it's not the destination.
People are always hoping to finally "arrive" at some better place
in their lives, and they end up missing out on the NOW.
Yes, you could go on forever, so that's why you have to learn how to appreciate
the moment you're in. Life is nothing more than a collection of present
moments that you either paid attention to and savored, or missed because you were
too busy trying to get to the next one.
The fact is that I have not stopped working on my thoughts and perceptions.
I still work on it every day. You ask this question of when to stop one thing
and do another as if working on your inner self can't be done at the same
time as your outer self.
Welcome to your world! A do-it yourself project with no end date.
Now, how would you like a plan for creating this new version
of yourself?
If you want to learn more about this concept, I
suggest you learn about REAL GAME …
The Alpha Man.
The reality is that True success with
women requires a firm
sense of direction in life, and self-confidence.
But you hear that all the time, don't you?
"Just be confident."
You'll hear that nugget of advice from a lot of
guys out there, but the difference is that they'll say "be confident," and
not give you ONE single method of actually improving
your confidence.
That's where I will help you.
I spent years trying out various self-help programs, studying
my own inner psychology (and inner wuss, too.) I figured out which things
make a difference and ...
... I have a plan to help
you improve your inner AND outer game with women.
When a woman senses that you've got passions and direction
in your life - even if that passion is to improve to be more attractive
to women - then
they'll want to come along for the ride.
I saw it over and over again as I went down this road.
Now, I also mapped this development, and I want you to benefit from my
experience.
There's no reason you should have to take as long as I did to make these changes
to your own life.
A Woman isn't looking for
a MAN - She's looking for a "Situation..."
For those of you out there reading this right now
that aren't sure how to calibrate to the "Alpha
Man" ideal, I have
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right now to find out what I'm talking about, or just read on...
A lot of the situations
guys write in about are a bit unclear because many guys delude themselves
as to their real level of success with
women. The reality is that most guys DO
NOT get what they
want from their interactions and relationships with women.
Crappy as that is, there is a cure for the common Lonely
Single Guy.
It's called EDUCATION.
It's the only way to stop being a whipped,
scared, beta guy and get your love life under your control again.
If you could learn secrets to attract
women, would you?
Can you see past
your ego defense mechanisms and embrace the power of the Alpha Man?
When you have enough women and action in your life, you
won't feel like you need to analyze or chase every chick that comes into your
sphere of influence. And that's a good thing. You'll act on it because
you've got a sense
of abundance in your life.
If you'd like to create your plan for making your life what you want, develop
confidence, attract women, accumulate wealth, find happiness...
I know there are some guys who won't understand how these concepts go together,
but all success in life is linked together by some common
principles.
If you're not getting what you want from life, you need to make some changes.
Stop putting your destiny off until some other 'convenient'
time...
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Listen
to what the other gurus are saying about Carlos' work...
"I've read every book and studied every system on dating and seduction.
The problem with most 'gurus' in this field is that they're not teaching
men how to build a solid foundation. Until you change your internal
belief system and adopt an Alpha mindset, all the tactics and techniques
in the world aren't going to do you any good. (Actually, it's like
learning just enough karate to get your ass kicked!) Carlos
Xuma is the best there is at teaching men how to develop their 'inner
game.' From there, he'll give you the complete set of tools for approaching
women, and life, with absolute confidence and skill. If you're in
this game to win it, these are the rules you
need to learn."
- "Supreme", M.A.C.K. Tactics co-creator
"Carlos Xuma is a man who has a clear passion for imparting the success
with women he has experienced to other guys worldwide. He approaches his
craft with immense integrity and a distinct style!"
- Scot McKay, X & Y
Communications, DeserveWhatYouWant.com
"Carlos Xuma is the REAL DEAL! If you are serious about
creating an extraordinary relationship. You will learn more about the
needs and desires of women than they do themselves! I highly recommend
Carlos to any man who is ready to get the woman of his dreams.
I love his game, its 100% real."
- the dean, Dating4Men.com
"Carlos Xuma is one of those rare guys in the field who actually GETS
what interacting with women is all about. His advice goes beyond
the pick-up lines and approach techniques that so many guys use
and fail with. Rather, Carlos gives guys everywhere practical, valuable
advice that will make men attractive not just for one night, but for many,
many years. He lays down the foundation for becoming a NATURALLY attractive
man, full of confidence and the ability to fully ENJOY being around hot
babes.
Unlike other pickup artists, Carlos shares information that helps you
not only in one area of life, but in many: in social relationships, at
work, sports, with personal goals. He'll help make you a well-rounded,
self-believing alpha MAN who's capable of just about anything.
And seducing gorgeous, high-quality women, is just the beginning."
- James Brito, How
to Be Irresistible to Women
"Carlos Xuma is one of the few men in the 'seduction' or 'attraction'
community who digs beneath the surface of passing attraction,
and Explores what it is to be a man who attracts women by virtue of his
character and, consequently, the natural outward expression of high character.
He brings words like 'discipline' and 'integrity' to
the forefront, and waddya know, those are exactly the qualities women
truly crave in a man."
- Grant Adams, CEO
- net2bed.com
"Hey Carlos, I write about the biology of men and women's behavior.
You seem to know the biology of behavior without knowing it. How
do you do that? You have a deep intuition of dynamics -
it took me 7 years of academic research to discover. And you find
sharp ways to apply it practically... Keep up the good work, brother."
- Joe Quirk, Author
of "Sperm are from Men, Eggs are from Women"
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Remember what Carlos says:
"NO WOMAN has the self-control to STOP pursuing that
which she TRULY desires..."
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reviews. And then download them now to see why more men get success with
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Listen to what this guy says about his experience
learning the Truth:
"I have purchased your Dating
Black Book and Approach
Women Now CD series. I have to tell you that after
reading the book and listening to the CDs I could help but feel
like the dorkiest man alive. I have let woman control my emotions
and have responded to them instead of them responding to me.
I always came off as a needy unconfident pervert!
"... I have learned to set standards and
not let a woman test me without busting their balls. I hope that if
I keep this up I will eventually find a woman that qualifies to be
in my life.
"One big thing too, if a woman sees that
I have things going on in my life, they tend to be more interested
instead of the bore I used to be. I have the motivation now to follow
my dreams and if a woman wants to be part of that then so be it, but
I have learned not to let a woman pull me off course of where I want
to go and do in my life..."
"Hey carlos, thank you for the Secrets
of the Alpha Man course. I think I must've listened to the
CDs four or five times now !
"The confidence I've gained in meeting
da ladeez at work and socially has been tremendous. I was never
skeptical at your
program, but was interested/concerned as how I would notice
the changes in myself. The clincher was when several of my closest
friends ... pointed out to me that I had confidence in so many ways!
"Thank you so much for your hard work for
making it easier for the rest of us!"
- Richie from UK
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great people and everyone else is that great people create their lives
actively, while everyone else is created by their lives, passively
waiting to see where life takes them next."
- Michael E. Gerber
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