Tuesday, July 19, 2005

DATING ADVICE FOR MEN: Approaching women and talking to women


Thanks for all the advice - you have helped me greatly improve my life!

I have been flirting- talking to a beer cart girl at the golf course where I regularly play. I finally asked her out with "some of us are going to (a bar we all know) later, you should come".

She said that she wasn't sure what she was doing later and said that yeah she would probably be going there later and that if she did she would come over and talk to me. I assume this is good news, we seem to have some chemistry, the main problem is that she is leaving in about a month and a half, so I need to make a good impression fast! How should I approach this one? If I see her at the bar I will just keep it friendly and have fun while trying to advance my cause.

But overall what should I be more aggressive because of the timetable or should I still play it somewhat cool? I have seen firsthand guys try to make aggressive moves on her and she doesn't respond real well to it. How should I handle this one or should I not give it much effort, I have mentioned the other girl, Staci, that I am seeing or whatever and have a couple other prospects as well. Any advice you could provide would be greatly appreciated!
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CARLOS:

Seek and destroy, dude...

What are your goals for this girl?

Pen pal?

Part-time girlfriend?

Long distance chick?

Just get laid?

I'd guess the last one is the closest of the set.

Your next step isn't to arrange coy encounters at the bar. You need to lead her to your goal.

Stop trying to make an impression. Impressions are chump food. A lot of guys run around with the mistaken belief that they should be trying to "impress" her in some way. I'm going to cover this in my new program for approaching women.

Watch for it ...

What you need to do next is get this bar-girl's number and get out with her right away.

Start by talking to her. Find out where her head's at with her so-called "not responding well" to other guys making aggressive moves. Find out what it is that's distasteful to her. And remember that 90% of the guys out there have NO REAL CLUE as to how to properly initiate attraction with a woman. You do now, and you should use this to your advantage.

I'll warn you that she might be looking to avoid entanglements with her departure coming up on the horizon, as you say. So you have to either go in at a harsh angle on this one, or just forget it.

Either way, she'll be gone in 6 weeks, so what do you have to lose?

No, REALLY.

Think about that. Let it motivate you to try something. What's the worst that could happen???

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