DATING ADVICE FOR MEN:
First thank you for your podcasts, blog and Dating guides.
This weekend I was out with friends putting your advice to work. It
was amazing! I had women throwing their numbers at me. I even had
women I had never met introducing me to friends, relatives, other
women in the bar.
There was one woman in particular, an attractive older woman, who
showed a high interest in me. We had a good exchange, physical
contact and then she told me she definitely had to give me her
number. On receipt of the number I gave the nod and my friends and
I decided to move to the next bar.
I gave her a short kiss and she pulled me in close and whispered in
my ear "I feel it was our destiny to meet tonight. I really want
you to call me."
At first I thought it was great. As I said she was very attractive
and we had a good exchange. But when I was thinking about what she
had said, especially the "destiny" part, I became uneasy and I
began to wonder. Was she looking for more than I want to give? Was
she a bit flaky and clingy?
So now I'm not quite sure what to do. Should I call her and set up
a meet to see if the "destiny" talk was just in the heat of the
moment or forget it and move on?
CARLOS GIVES YOU A HIGH FIVE:
Dude! That totally rocks.
I'm trying to not be jaded by all the success you guys are having,
but sometimes it's hard. I don't find it as amazing as I once did,
but I try to remember what it was like when I found out there were
specific rules to sparking a woman's feelings of attraction and desire.
Arthur C. Clarke once said, "Any sufficiently advanced technology
is indistinguishable from magic."
That's what it feels like when you use this "Attraction Technology"
to work on a woman.
Though, I'm not sure what you mean by "older woman..." Older than
Older than your dad?
Older than dirt?
Just funning with you, but I need an age range to tell you what her
likely focus is.
I will tell you this, though -
Older women are the BEST in bed. Hands down, they will rock your
Now MY definition of "older" is a woman in her 30s. Sometimes 40s
if she's kept herself in really good shape.
I wouldn't get too hung up on the "destiny" comment if I were you.
You see, it's very likely that she was responding to the extreme
attraction she felt for you by plugging into those primal programs
she has running around in her romantic little head.
Women are pre-programmed with the Disney Syndrome.
They're all looking to fulfill their image of the "Prince Charming"
ideal. They want the man that comes in and romantically sweeps them
off their feet and they all live happily ever after.
And, inevitably, this Charming mo-fo never arrives. Much to their
disappointment, they usually have to settle for a guy who plays
Starcraft on the weekends and likes watching UFC fights late-night.
When she runs into a guy who uses the stuff I teach you, however,
she feels that SPARK.
She feels that certain something that tells her you're not a dork like the
last ten guys that came over trying to buy their way into her thong.
Go out with her. Have fun...
But watch out for more red flags.
Hey, she may have been feeling intense that night.
Or the Cosmopolitans were hitting her hard. Either way.
You've hit on something with your attitude, though.
This is what an Alpha Man is - socially desired.
He knows that it's not the anti-social jerk that gets to have all
the fun (and the women) in life, but the guy who's calm and
confident in his own skin, and can still be liked by others.
The Alpha Man also knows that self-development is the path to a
better life. It all starts with getting educated.
Education leads to understanding. Understanding leads to better
choices. Better choices lead to better results.
And results are ALL that matters when it comes to the game of women.
I can show you the way to better results and success with women,
and it's all in my e-books - THE DATING BLACK BOOK and THE
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