I've been finding the last few months so boring dating wise, I've been going on a few dates with number of different girls, but whether I'm too selective, or I'm not meeting the right type i just don't want to see them again.
Its becoming very frustrating, placing so much effort in finding a decent girl, and all I'm getting are (to be frank), very boring women who like exactly the same things as the last girl I saw. Yes they're attractive, but when it comes down to it, the person on inside I've learnt means so much more, and yet where are these interesting characters?
The more different girls I seem to meet the more bored I've become, they all seem the same! and the only one that is a little more interesting, lives an impractical distance away. What am I doing wrong?
First, let's set up some ground rules:
1) Picky is GOOD. If you want a lasting relationship, you damn well better be selective. You don't want a woman that drains you or pushes your buttons at every turn. You want easygoing, attractive, and positive. Trust me on this one.
2) After years of bad cultural programming, it comes as quite a surprise that the quality of a woman really isn't what we thought. We imagined a princess, but she winds up being a bit of a pill. Women are cool, but not the be-all, end-all we were led to believe in fairy tales and movies. Unfortunate but true.
3) You're going to have to look beyond her looks if you want to find a quality woman out there. Men are far too hung up on appearance, and rarely find true happiness with the "hotties." The reality is that the women who have the most natural attraction have done the least amount of self-development. They don't improve themselves because they don't have to. (Yes, I'm generalizing here, but we all know this it mostly true. For women AND men.) Her looks are all she's needed to get her what she wants, and that's enough to coast on for quite a while.
The bottom line is that you aren't doing ANYTHING wrong. You're just learning what most guys do. Women that are attractive are pretty common. Someone worthwhile is always going to take time to find, just like anything else.
If you'd like to hear more about this in detail, I suggest you get a listen to the podcast from last week. I gave a much more thorough accounting of why this is happening...