Wednesday, September 13, 2006

Got too many women attracted to you?

Carlos, I need your HELP bad right now.
 
I am seeing several women right now, and I feel like I can't date just one exclusively. I have stated this to one of them and she has caught feelings and does not want to continue this if I am not going to be exclusive and stop sleeping with other women.

HOW does one get around this without being dishonest and becoming a cheater? I really like this girl, but I honestly don't feel like I can give up these other women.

I think you know what I am going through here and I'm sure you have mastered the game for how to handle this type of situation.
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CARLOS:

First of all, everyone shed a tear for this guy that has too many women. (*Note: it really is true that 10% of the guys get about 90% of the quality women out there.)

Well, I hate to tell you this, but more often than not, a woman will want your EXCLUSIVE attention. Otherwise she feels like a "girl on the side" - or a slut - and will not want to participate.

Sometimes it comes down to re-framing the situation for her, but most times it is a matter of your own personal power and posture, as well as your congruity and beliefs.

What does all that dime-store psychology mean?

Simple.

You must first reconcile your values and your honor. Do you find it acceptable to be deceptive to these women? To not be truthful and feel dishonest?

Then your only path is to be straight and clear with them:

"Look, I really love spending time with you. I think you're fantastic, and I'd like to see where this will go. I just don't want to rush things. And I hope you don't either. I'm sure you've done that in the past and regretted it, like I did.  I'd just like us to keep our options open for now while we see what might happen. If it's meant to be, we'll be together. Now let's go have some fun."

And if she is still hung up on this, you may have to consider losing her.

What?

Is Carlos suggesting that monogamy is BAD???

What I'm saying is that any belief that is black-and-white is immediately suspicious to me.

Monogamy is GREAT - in the right situation. However, at the start of a relationship that you have not tested and experienced completely, it could cause much more harm than good.

Remember that most people get into a long term relationship out of FEAR.

They're afraid of being alone, and they are also afraid of being single. (Which somehow equates to the same thing.)

Just keep in mind that you are taking risks with anyone out there, so safe sexual practices are ALWAYS required.

Now how do you communicate the right personality so that women will understand they are lucky to have YOU?

Find out HERE.


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