DATING ADVICE QUESTION:

Hi Carlos,

Just a quick thing to run past u. How do I hit on a hot chick at work thats just broke up with her boyfriend of 2 years.

D from scotland !
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CARLOS:

First of all, don't bother with the "hit on" thing. Just remember that she's going to be very skittish about any guys for a bit while she gets some wildness out of her system.

She's going to want to catch up on 2 years of freakiness with some guys before she's going to want anything regular.

Of course that's assuming you want to get "regular" with her

Here's a quick point by point:

1) She's on the rebound. It won't last. So keep that in mind. She's not really available. Anyone out of a two year relationship is at least two or three months from being ready to seriously date again.

2) Don't ask her out. Just get her out somewhere to have fun. Give her lots and lots of FUN. Maybe you can be her next super-freak.

3) She's very likely going to be miserable to have around at times. You must ignore it and keep on with a happy uplifting attitude in spite of her. Don't become her therapist.

4) There's a high probability that she's going to get back together with him again a few times. Accept it. Don't fight it.

5) Make her feel good about herself without being a suck-up or a low self-esteem over-complimenting toadie. Enough said.

Don't go in with high expectations and you won't be let down on this one. Because right now, she's got more downside than a double black diamond ski slope on Mt. Everest. Don't get caught up in that "I gotta have her" syndrome.

Remember that "hard-to-get" really works. And right now, she's naturally very hard to get, so just keep your distance or you'll be sucked down into that obsessive black hole of despair known as obsession.

Have you tried going after any available women lately? I recommend one of those.

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