Reading Body Language - What You Must Know About
Women and Body Language...
When I first started learning
how to meet women and get them interested in me, one of the first things
I wanted to learn was about reading body language. I'd heard of how you
can "read" someone
simply by watching how they sit, stand, or fold their arms.
It seemed logical, right? That you could learn a technique to figure out
what someone is thinking about you by reading the outside signals.
Have you ever been somewhere talking to a woman, and you're trying to figure
out if she's into you by how she's sitting?
Or you're watching her for some sign of interest by watching her eyes and
what she does with her hands...?
There's a fairly well-known statistic that only 7% of your meaning is communicated
in your actual words.
93% of your meaning is in your tonality, body language, and other indicators.
So you do want to make sure that you understand this concept and use it to
your advantage, or you could be missing out on signals that a woman is giving
off when you're reading body language.
And the most important thing to know is that a big part of how she feels
about you is how well you appear to understand and respond to her subtle body
If you "get it" she will be interested
If you don't "get it" she will automatically
lose attraction for you.
And studies have shown that this is done in about 7 seconds.
That's 7 whole seconds.
Pretty crazy, huh?
So reading body language is a powerful and necessary
skill. (It's something I cover in detail in my latest program - "Get
a Girlfriend FAST.")
But here's something even more important that you have to do first - before
you even start reading her body language...
If you just wait and watch for "signals" from
a woman, you're missing a big opportunity.
You see, women want one thing more than anything from a man. And it's a very
big thing. It fills her up and makes her feel pleasure more than anything
NO - it's not that! Get your mind out of the gutter. :)
She wants a man who can take charge and confidently LEAD her to the place
she wants to go.
This means that if you're too hung up on reading body language and watching
for signals, you'll miss the real opportunity - which is to LEAD her with
your own body language.
You see, if you're waiting for signals to appear, you're not creating the
kind of initiative that makes a woman feel attracted to you. In fact, you're
at risk of looking socially reactive.
That fancy little term just means that you're reacting to what people do
instead of just doing what it is you're going to do. It ends up looking like
you need permission to take action.
This doesn't inspire confidence in you from the woman's point of view.
It's like always wanting to be the defense in a football game. You can't
score if you don't take control of the ball and run with it.
(Heheh... he said "score....")
There's another danger here, and it's one that I want you to be aware of:
You can't push a woman into feeling attraction for you.
If you've ever tried to "persuade" or
convince a woman that she should feel something for you, you probably already
know what I mean.
Have you ever had someone push you towards something that you could tell
was more to serve their agenda than you?
You ever been in a store where you could sense that the staff wasn't really
there to care about YOU as a person and what you need, but instead they seemed
to just want to sell you something?
You were just customer #43,297.
And that didn't make you feel very special or unique.
That kind of attitude is one of those things we can just detect, like the
smell of manure when you're driving by a farm. And it turns you off just as
So you know how this feels, and that should tell you a lot about how women
feel when a man presses his interest on her - rather than trying to share
some fun with her and show her how it would feel to get intimate with him.
Ultimately, that's all a woman cares about. How
much fun will she feel with you when she's with you. She's got her radio
tuned into: WII FM - "What's
In It For Me" radio...
It's not because of selfishness; it's just human nature.
You're like this, too. If we don't get something out of the contact with
other people, we wouldn't associate with them. But if we get something from
it, we're also giving something to them, and it creates a circuit.
This loop of energy we create with another person
by socializing with them is what I call a "feedback loop."
(Oh, and these loops are TEN times as powerful when you're flirting with
So when you're reading her body language, you're actually
only working half the loop with her. The other half is
when you lead her with your own body language.
Make sure that you're not trying to "mirror" her
movements or pace her too much, because this sends a subtle and subconscious
message to her that SHE IS LEADING YOU.
And we know now that she doesn't want to feel this. She needs to feel like
you are leading her.
So if you're reading body language to see if she's into you, I suggest that
just by starting with initiative on your side, you can massively increase
your success ratio. She will feel a more complete circuit and connection with
you, which means she will feel more attracted to you.