How
to Use Facebook to Meet Women in 4 Easy Steps…
I’ve had quite
a few guys ask me about using the latest in social networking
to get hooked up meeting women.
Well, it’s actually
not that hard, but you have to do it with some understanding
of how to play the game. Because there are many ways
to do it wrong, and only a few to do it right…
QUESTION
ABOUT FACEBOOK:
Carlos, hey man, thanks for all
your great advice…
I
wanted to ask you about something - how can I use Facebook to meet women online?
I’ve heard that it can be
done, but I can’t
help thinking it would be weird and creepy to approach
some of my friends’ friends like this and ask for
a date.
But it seems like a MEGA opportunity to meet women.
How
can I work this?
- Allen L., Houston
______________________
CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS:
I’ve been eyeing this method
to meeting women for some time, and I agree completely.
It IS a mega-mega opportunity to meet women…
…if it’s handled
right.
First of all, let’s
remember the catastrophe that is “Myspace.” (May
it rest in peace.) That social network has been so polluted
and abused that it’s
really not useful anymore. I know I don’t take it
seriously.
What happened there?
Well, first of all, everyone got slammed
with spam. A few clever programmers and bulk friend programs,
and suddenly you had Myspace pages that looked like web
sites from the year 1998.
Cheap backgrounds, silly wallpaper,
and everybody’s
page looked like a 14-year-old girl’s bedroom, complete
with Britney Spears posters.
Enter Facebook.
A whole lot classier than its trailer-park
cousin, Facebook has maintained a better image. But with
a bunch of cool toys and add-ons that made it interesting
and more fun.
So how can you work this great social networking
tool to help you with your dating life - while not looking
like some pervert who got kicked out of the alleys of Myspace?
I’ll
give you a very simple 4-step model to use. This is the
one that my friends and I have used consistently to get
results online.
STEP 1: Connect with the guys - and other
women - who have a lot of cute girl friends.
In other words, connect with people that YOU are not interested
in dating who have big networks.
You must be very indirect
at first using Facebook.
Remember the lesson from Myspace
- Don’t be a spammer!
This is not “match.com” or
an online dating site, so don’t just start sending
out invites and emails hoping to score based on numbers.
We’ve come
to hate the abusers, and you’ll just get your sorry
ass kicked right off.
Start out with light connections.
Think “friends
first.”
Don’t make your Facebook profile look
like you’re
trying to meet women. Be subtle.
What you’re trying
to do is multiply your results and increase your connection
potential by meeting more people who know more people.
If
you just start trying to hit on the women you’re
interested in right off the bat, you’ll be limiting
your results with shortsighted thinking.
Think out to the
LONG term. The more cool people you connect with and forge
relationships with, the more likely you are to connect
with a woman naturally.
STEP 2: Connect with women you are
interested in VERY indirectly.
What you have to do is send a simple friend request -
and make sure you include a message with it!
You just say
something like, “Hey, I saw we’re
both friends with Greg… Then I noticed you’re
a snowboarder, too… Ever go to Tahoe?”
You
see what I did there? I left a question INSIDE my friend
request. For her to answer it, she’s going to feel
compelled to add me.
It’s also just something people
are looking to do. Let’s face it, we all measure
our social success by how many people we’ve got as
friends on Facebook. We all want a HUGE network, so women
will WANT to add you - if only to increase their friend
count.
STEP 3: Start leveraging the tools.
Facebook has a huge
amount of potential for the guy who wants to take advantage
of them. You can add all kinds of cute little applications
to send virtual drinks to friends, send goofy gifts, or
even start your own polls and surveys.
But one of the best
tools you need to be using is the GROUP function on Facebook.
In
fact, in preparing for this article, I created the group “Carlos
Xuma’s Alpha Lifestyle” to start connecting
you guys together and enabling men to share information.
You
can do this, too. Just create a group based on your passion
and your local area.
I’m going to advise you to avoid
starting a group based on “Warcraft” or on
the latest hot actress.
Make your group something a woman
can relate to and might be interested in. Maybe it’s
the television show “Lost…” or
maybe it’s about all things Italian.
Ba-da-bing! Now
you’ve got a hook to use to invite
her into your group.
STEP 4: Start escalating and creating
more opportunities.
Remember, this is a VIRTUAL tool.
It’s
online.
In other words, your connections
don’t REALLY
exist anywhere except on some server in an air-conditioned
room in a data center somewhere.
It’s up to YOU to
bring these connections to life with events that you can
invite people to.
Most people will stroll around
this virtual network, but then never take it into the
REAL world. That’s
where YOU come in.
Maybe once a month you should organize
a happy hour at your local favorite bar. Or maybe you make
a Facebook group for wine tasters, and then every other
Friday you meet up and go tasting the latest Pinot Noirs.
THAT
is your opportunity to start looking for romantic potential
in the groups. You have to remember that you can’t
be a Facebook “pickup artist” and
try to attract women online.
You have to build a network,
forge some connections, and meet women in person to start
creating the attraction.
That being said, you can also
send out some playful introductions to women you don’t
know and see if they bite. (Just make sure your profile
has enough interesting bait for them to nibble at…)
-
Write on people’s walls…
- Send a few virtual
drinks…
- Send some good
karma…
- Use the “Flirtable” app…
For the man
with initiative, the Facebook world is yours.
So step up
and start creating the social network, then start meeting
the women in it.
And here's another nasty truth:
If you're not actively
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own.
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