NEWSLETTER September 26, 2006

Curing Your Confusion ... With No Delusion.

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QUESTION:

Hey Carlos,

My name is Steve and I'm a subscriber to your E-mails. They have provided a lot of help, thanks.

I have a problem, a few weeks ago me and a mate went to his local shopping  centre one night and we walked past this amazing young female, she is on of those angels that come in through your window in your dreams. I made the mistake of telling my mate that i thought she was incredible. it turns out he goes to school with this girl. He is in some of the same classes as her and has since told her that I have this huge crush on her, which isnt true I just thought she was beautiful.

But this is where my problem comes in, Id like to introduce myself to her but I now fear that my mate has ruined my chances of getting her number and hopefully a date with this girl.

What should I do...?

Please Help
Steve

CARLOS ANSWERS:

First of all, Steve, take the misty glasses off and stop idolizing women based on their looks.

You say you don't have a crush on her, but I suspect that's not entirely true. You wouldn't be writing me if she was just a passing fancy.

She's not a magical, mystical entity. She's not "incredible." She's not even "amazing" until she demonstrates some positive qualities beyond her appearance.

Get me?

Second of all, get rid of the begging tone and MAN UP!

I hear a lot of guys that come crying to me with an urgent tone and say things like "Please please help me!" or "URGENT HELP NEEDED" which just shows me that they're putting WAY too much emphasis on the woman.

Trust me, you were fine without her for all these years, you'll do fine for a while longer.

In fact, in many cases you'll do even better WITHOUT her.

Not every woman is a match. It's time to start being a little more choosy. Stop letting every woman you glimpse into your heart like some sacred angel. She has yet to prove herself to you!

Did you ever think about it that way? That she still has something to demonstrate to you?

Such as:

- Compatibility
- Healthy positive attitude
- Willingness to watch Bruce Willis action movies until dawn..
- Etc.

So to answer your question, "What should I do?"

(continued ... )

It's pretty easy, chap.

GO TALK TO HER!

Why are you making this such an arcane, mysterious process? Just go talk to her!

You're running around with some imagined fear that she now thinks of you as a long-distance admirer. You're imagining scenarios that have no basis in reality.

Well, if you're not all mushy inside, you should have no problem walking up and showing her your Alpha Man strength and impressing her with your confidence.

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Sorry Carlos but I violently disagree. I support David DeAngelo's opinion in this.

Another thing that pisses me off lately is something I see more and more.

We as men should ACCEPT women for what they are, flakiness, emotional outbursts etc. etc.

We shouldn't try to CHANGE them. In stead, WE should change 1000% because women don't see us otherwise. It seems to me that women have all the rights to be themselves and that we should dive in the sand, and go through a lot of pain to change ourselves ONLY so that she finally sees us and we are worthy.

I've had it with that. I am 37, happy with the things I have, never had a relationship though. I understand that I must try to become a better person for myself and for a women. And I admit that I do have a couple of things that I must work on. But, I refuse, and let me repeat that, I REFUSE to change myself SOOOO freaking much, ONLY that a woman will notice me where she didn't notice me before. I hope I make myself clear. I should be accepted for who I am now, with my good and bad things.

And to answer your question. No, I am not willing to sacrifice my rule for not wanting children. Should she sacrifice her rule for wanting children?

We're not talking about throwing away a sandwich because you don't like it here. I think that both parents should support the wish for having children for the fully 100%.

And if that means I never get a relationship, then so be it. Like you I am very spiritual and I think it's my karma then, for not having a relationship.

Cheers mate,

- P.

CARLOS ANSWERS:

Whoah there! You're reading way too much into this.

(For those of you who may not be aware, this letter is in response to my article regarding women that flake.)

It's not about "changing" yourself. If you've read my e-books or heard my CD programs, you know that I never tell a guy to change for a woman.

No.

Bad.

Wrong, wrong wrong.

As a matter of fact, David D. and I both agree on this as well, so I know there's a misunderstanding here. (Go listen to my Interview with Dating Gurus with him.)

If you don't want children, then NO, you don't have to change your opinion to get a woman.

However, I question what you're currently holding on to as your "identity."

What are "YOU"?

You are the sum of your beliefs and attitudes...

... which changes every day.

(continued ... )

Are you the same person you were when you were 9 years old?

Not really. All the cells in your body have changed, and your opinions and attitudes probably have, too. (I seriously hope so, anyway.)

But it's still YOU isn't it?

Don't become attached (one of the spiritual poisons, by the way) to your ego too much, or to your opinion as your IDENTITY. It's not necessarily the same.

Too many guys hide behind a false veil of self-righteous "I'm gonna be ME, whether they like me or not" and don't realize that they aren't sacrificing their identity to grow and get more success through better social skills.

They're hiding behind a fear of change.

Hey, if you're proud of who you are, that's great. Don't lose that.

Allow me to suggest that if you have never had a relationship, and you don't want one, then that's fine, too. You're a smashing success.

But if you you DO want a relationship (and I know you do deep down inside, whether you would admit it or not), you should consider learning more skills to make that happen.

This is what I teach in the Alpha Immersion program. This is 12 hours that will change your life.

If you let it.

But if you'd rather argue for your self-imposed limitations, well that's fine, too.

Remember what I always say: We're all self-made - But only the successful admit it.

Let me remind you of one more thing:

Which is easier, to change the world...

... or yourself?

Bottom line. RESULTS ARE ALL THAT MATTERS.

If you're not getting what you want from life, you need to make some changes.
Don't wind up 90 years old and alone just because your pride got in the way.

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