Wednesday, April 02, 2008

You Teach People How to Treat You

Heya. I got problems at work. I am the youngest at my workplace. I am very shy. The women at my workplace tend to sense that and they love to tease me or make comments when I pass by. They will make comments like small boy or stuff like that. Irritating stuff. How do I get them to back off. Or stop making comments?

Thing is, the more I ignore them the more they try to irritate me.
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CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS:

The problem really is that they can SEE that they're irritating you, and you're being beaten down like a Beta Dog.

You're not really ignoring them as much as you think or 1) they wouldn't do it, and 2) you wouldn't be writing me...

Welcome to the pecking order! You'll be challenged like this for your whole life, in some form or another. And it's not them picking on you that makes the difference in the results you get. It's the way you REACT to it that makes all the difference.

I can't teach you indifference in a blog post, but I can tell you this: It's time for you to start giving as good as you're getting.

What I mean is, you better turn the tables on them and become the guy that's teasing THEM.

Try this one on for size: "What are you, a bunch of cougars? Get out of here and go chase down some 80 year old fossil. You're way too old for me, anyway..."

Not with anger, mind you - but with playful fun.

Remember what I teach you in my Social Games program: You teach people how to treat you.

Whether you like it or not.

If you want to learn how to manage and destroy these games that people play with you, then you should go look at this...

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