Are you worried?
"We cannot allow the worry of distractions to become the bigger distraction than the distractions."
Brief side note: old mentor of mine's statement: "Worriers (and spellers) can be hired for minimum wage." A lot of people waste a lot of time and energy worrying about what others think of them – which is actually the combo of ego amok and low self-esteem. Or worrying about problems that might arise – which is only useful in context of strategic planning and proactive prevention.
CARLOS XUMA COMMENTS:
This is an important lesson to you when you're out there trying to talk to women and get this part of your life under your control.
Worrying is the most USELESS mental effort you can expend.
It accomplishes NOTHING. Usually worry immobilizes us so much that we even fail to PREPARE when we know there is a chance of the thing we're worrying about coming true.
And re-read Dan Kennedy's statement once more:
A lot of people waste a lot of time and energy worrying about what others think of them – which is actually the combo of ego amok and low self-esteem.
Very very true. Amazingly we can be both egotistical AND insecure at the exact same time.
If you're in this mindset when you're talking to a woman, you're not only ensuring that your conversation will not arouse her interest, you're also going to emotionally condition and cripple yourself in future interactions, because you'll be practicing the fine art of MESSING with your own head.
The best state to be in with women is worry-free, relaxed, and independent of her judgement and evaluation.
Remember: No woman can judge you! They're not qualified for this job.
Only you are.