A success story from an Alpha Man reborn...
I'm glad I finally got myself to do this. I've been meaning to email you for a while now but have lacked the time and well . . . yeah I've been lazy too. First of all - THANKS! so far I've bought the dating black book and alpha man programs and I've been listening to your podcasts religiously. Last week I bought the Approach Women Now set and I'm eagerly awiting it in the mail.
My story: I'm of Middle eastern decent, and the sterotype of Middle easterners is the MSP who beats women, this made me very insecure and I actually down played my manliness to 'break the cliche' so to speak.
The funny thing Carlos, I think I've always been Alpha with everything in my life with the exception of women! At 25 I started my own business and became succesful to the point to managing several emplyees - pretty alpha huh? I now make well into the six figures - And I'm only 27 and this is just the begining!
The funny thing howver, when it came to women I was a total AFC! I did everything you tell your listners NOT to do. . . Its only been roughly 2 months since I've made my dramatic attitude adjustments (only two 21 day cycles and I've already become succesful with women), my only weak point is with my approach - which is why I ordered the Approach Women Now set.
Thanks to your advice I can indulge in great conversation with women and apply the right amount of tease to please and show a great deal of confidence - Which makes me very, very attractive to women...
Recently, I had been feeling as though something was missing in my life - I have everything most men could dream of : Totally Independant, master of my own domain, money, fast cars and even faster women! It hit me a few weeks ago that I needed to gI've back a little to this world so I became a fundraiser for war child international (warchild.org) and decided to host an event at a local night club to raise awareness and money for the cause....
This not only increased my confidence it also gave me a great feeling of fulfilment - that rare "I can make a difference" feeling so many of us men lack...
Needless to say it went awesome, we raised a great deal of money and I met several quality women! - It also helped my approach big time! I walked around a room full of sexy women and got the chance to bust their chops a little and exchange witty banter while asking for donations, It gave me the validation I needed to talk to women with a complete 'I have nothing to loose' attitude! I was asking for donations and if someone didnt donate - oh well, thats their karmic loss I felt.
I realized that night that this is the attitude I need to have when appraoching women. . . I think you should suggest your listeners to join charitable organizations to not only help the 'cause' whatever that may be, but also break their fear of approaching! It worked wonders for me and when your done you realize the validation you need to talk to women is all in your head - Now, the only validation I need to talk to a hot girl is that she needs the pleasure of enjoying my company. . .
Carlos, thanks again man - Please allow me to take you to your favorite resturant in SF if I ever vist the bay area...
- Syed (pronounced Say - eed...)
CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS:
You might think I include these stories to toot my own horn.
Yeah, you're right...
But I also do it for a more important reason: To show you that change - significant change - is not that difficult to do.
IF you set your mind to it...!
And the suggestion about working for a charity is an AWESOME one. We all need to get more involved in the world around us and put aside our relentless self-absorption.
Guys out there would benefit 1000% if they just put aside their desperation for a woman and tuned into their contribution to the world around them. You might find that women really aren't as important as you think. (And they're really not... God bless 'em, I love 'em, but they're not my purpose on this planet.)
Help someone else out and you'll see that your own issues will take a back seat. Confidence comes - in a large part - from knowing you're a part of something positive and powerful. Working with a charity can really bring that home.
I used to volunteer in a children's cancer ward. Nothing wakens you up more than seeing a little girl, no older than 4 years, bald, with a scar halfway around her head from where they operated on a brain tumor. And she was happy and having fun just playing with toys. That little joy has no equal.
And I'll take you up on that dinner offer.
I'm hungry for some Persian food...
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