Monday, February 26, 2007

What do you do when a woman sends you those idiotic male-bashing chainemails?

Hey Carlos

This woman I'm currently seeing often forwards me humorous email video clips or jokes of various kinds, including an occassional male-bashing one, that actually kind of gets under my skin just a bit with all of the "wussification" of the American Male in the media and beautiful women's false reality of power going on.

I feel that I have to stick up for my gender by bantering back to her something equally as insightful and playful, but without making too big a deal about it, you know, like, "yeah that's kind of cute...for most guys, but I'm waay more sophisticated than that you dork", kind of vibe.

Are there any good female-bashing sites that bust women's balls really good...you know, to show her that we men know all about how screwed up women can be.

What would be a good come-back?

If nothing else, I thought about replying back with, "And don't forget the beer", or "Hey that's interesting, those are most of the reasons why I still let you come over".

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CARLOS:

This is a great question, because I find a lot of women like to play the gender card and include guys on their lame emails. And they either do it once in a while, or all the freakin' time.

The best response is simply to ignore the emails (I do ignore them, but note their content) and then, when the opportunity is right, I let her know that I'm smarter and above having to have a comeback for them.

Say we're out having drinks and at some point I'll make it a point to say:

"You know, I really like hanging out with women. There are a lot of guys out there that have a problem with women, some kind of gender anger bullshit. There are even a lot of women with this issue. It's nice to be around a person that doesn't feel like she has to constantly belittle the opposite sex to give herself a sense of self-esteem."

Then you sit back and watch what happens next. She will either react weird, depending on how she reads your statement and then contrasts it with herself.

- If she is a fairly cool chick, she'll probably roll with it, and hopefully you won't hear any more of her nonsense anymore. Or get those lame emails.

- If she flinches, or even goes so far as to contradict what you say, you've got a red flag to watch out for.

I believe in reinforcing the good behavior. If her poor behavior is not modified by HER, then I won't be able to do much about it either.

The key here is to roll with it. Don't let her annoying habit (and there are a small but noticeable group of women that really get off on this 'laugh at men' stuff) get in the way of you going after what you want. If you detect that this is going to be an ongoing thing, you should consider whether you have the patience to manage this issue.

Do not get caught up in the game of justifying men or defending men. That's going to look wussy.

And you have to keep your behavior above reprisal. Meaning, don't start mocking women as a way to put her in her place.

Live your life by principle, not manipulated reactions.

As I teach HERE....

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